Says you.
Personally, I'd much prefer to have the old one click "accept and load" button added back in.
Not every change to the game is going to be perceived as an improvement to everyone.
And those who don't like the changes absolutely have the right to post their feedback in the company's forum.
Hopefully other forum goers will be wise enough to accept that not everyone has the same opinion, and allow other players to post their own opinions without replying with insults because they feel differently.
I totally agree with the sentiment, however, para handy is right.
The OP has asserted that things have changed, and cites:
1) The forum is laggy. It isn't and it is not a reasonable expectation that the forum would be at fault for that unless a lot of people were reporting it. Let's chalk that one up to anger on the OPs part.
2) Cargo not autoloading is so that you can do it with smaller ships in batches, and fair enough, it's a recent change, but a great one. Only the most blinded-by-rage person could fail to see that. It's one of the best QoL changes so far. Fair enough OP, there's virtually nowhere you could have read this except here on the forum.
3) CnP also has changed, as stated. If you get a fine, go to the nearest station, hit contacts, pay it. Read the text carefully, if it says 'Pay fine and hand yourself in', go to interstellar factors. If you have a bounty or a fine in a far away jurisdiction, you go to a low sec system and use Interstellar Factors. This is not known to be bugged, and couldn't be simpler, you go and pay off the bounties/fines at a 25% inflated rate and all is well. I don't know what the OP thought he was doing, but this isn't buggy or convoluted. You click, you pay. Done. This covers ALL kinds of infringement of any value. PROVIDED your notoriety is 0, and if it isn't, then he murdered someone and it wasn't just friendly fire, and he's leading us up a gum tree from the start.
4) @OP, don't be scared now you know how to deal with it. How you thought you needed to sell all your modules and ship I cannot fathom, does that seem logical to you? Why didn't you come on the forums at that time and just ask what's going on? CnP isn't great right now, I admit.
There is also nothing that I know of that doesn't work properly in VR, except the galaxy map and that's not new. I do play in VR.
Basically, these things are invariably either good changes that the OP didn't expect, not new, or failures of assumption. In a game like Elite, it is not reasonable to go out in the black for what I can only assume must be more than 9 months, and 1) expect nothing to have changed, or 2) That these things would be intuitive.
On the bright side, OP will realise all this and have fun with the new features for a while. Devs are doing an acceptable job lately and OP's criticism is not accurate or warranted.
@OP, I don't mean to be over critical, just being frank, and I think you'll like most of the changes, game is going in a good direction recently. Very good luck to you o7