So I'm ill-disposed towards the whole enterprise at the moment and have barely - barely - managed to resist wiping my save again; which is what I usually do when I die for idiotic, stupid reasons of my abject, worthless failure to achieve anything in life.
I'm probably part of the "gid gud" crowd, but I still want to chime in here. Behind the vitriol and idiotic language the whole point of it is quite positive. Nobody starts as a pro pilot and most players never reach that point and that's fine. It's mostly about realising what you can change
and what you can't. This helps to develop the
patience with yourself to just get ever so slightly better than before, because absolutely nobody is an expert at start. Stopping your progress, because of a slight mistake doesn't help. The whole "gid gud" stuff is mainly about accepting ones limitations by finding them in the first place. Idiotic reasons to fail are always there, but you shouldn't feel bad about them.
Apart of that, the "gentleman pirates" are actually those guys and gals, which will be most helpful, because they don't interdict you simply to kill you, but to communicate with you. Their civility isn't there to make you feel weak, but mostly pretty honest, because pirating requires the victim to play along. If that puts you in a bad position, tell them. There are enough pirates which will be happy with some banter, instead of your cargo.