IMHO simulation has something to do with how a certain game belongs in the "console" department like BF3 and somthing that s-i-m-u-l-a-t-e-s real life or life as it would be in the 33rd Century, viewed through the eyes of someone of the 21 st century. Or for example compare BF/MOH to the Arma series and you see where I am going.
Falcon 4 vs Jetfighter.
KA-52 Black shark vs team alligator
25 Years ago, doctors would have put you in a special hospital should you have mentioned smartphones or how they work today, and 100 years ago, you would also land in an institution by saying that "this century a man would walk on the moon". What I mean is, we don't need teleporters in the elite universe, that is star trek stuff, but who knows they will not be invented and used sometime in the year 2600?
Simulation has nothing to do about the fact that people do or do not involve themselves in PvP. The word you are looking for is Online and maybe Interactive, but not simulation.