I see nothing crazy here.
oh wait...you called the goid your "boyfriend".
goids are all female. maybe her bread just isn't buttered on that side. you need to find ine that self-identifies as male.
They cannot all be 'female' as that would mean their reproductive cycle functions with a single sex - male and female are irrelevant terms here. My choice of 'boyfriend' merely reflects my personal view and we are now delving into the crooked maw of gender identity discussion.