thanks Komemiute, dont worry about the shots there are loads of reviews on youtube, but thank you again for answering my questions.
The software is the thing that I will think is the huge difference, and apart from the fact I have had to really search for minus points for this stick (push buttons being one of the few for space games) along with your posting has me convinced tbh.
It was between this and the x65f I hear its a nice stick but just not as good software and build quality is no where near the Warthog. I down loaded both the pdf's from the saitek and Tm websites and whilst the throttle on the x65 seems to have alot of options but the shear amount of options the warthog has over all is impressive.
As for the husband it will be me that gets to do all the setting up and learning the software, its my job to fix the pc's up and he gets the end result. However, ED is all mine hence the question about hand size. If he is lucky I may even let him have a character slot. lol.
We have an oculus rift dev kit (soon to be dev kit 2 I hope), and as soon as I heard my very 1st computer game I played as a girl of 7 or so was coming back I pledged.
When I heard it was a rift game I went founder. So now I just am trying as always to figure out how to get the best experience possible for me for ED and SC, for him whatever flight games he likes. I have to say everything I hear about the warthog seems to fit. Shame there are no more old style PC shops with things like this on display any more.
Thanks again for the feedback really liking this stick the more I read about it.