So I finally finished reading this entire thread, and I wanted to present some viewpoints that I don't think I've seen thus far.
My plan for ED at this stage is to play it online, but solo or in a small group of highly trusted (read: RL) friends. This is for a number of reasons.
While playing the original Elite while I was growing up, my friends and I used to dream up ways of how the game could be made even better. These ideas broadly came down to improved graphics, flying different ships, more weapon options and perhaps a few more missions (Zartid, Zurid etc). Not once do I ever recall anyone discussing multiplayer options.
Point #1: I was happy for years on end with the original Elite without multiplayer, and ED easily ticks all my other boxes without it too.
Eve Online was my first MMO, from 2004-2010. It was cool for the first 2 years or so until people realised there were no consequences for acting like spacejerks, so eventually everyone became spacejerks. Sure I PvPed a few hundred kills or so along the way, but it wasn't my main focus, and I regret having hung around in the game for so long in the vain hope that things would ever improve.
Point #2: I would *like* to trust in other people online in this game, but with so many other ex-Eve players also here, I *know* that I can't.
I also played Guild Wars from 2008 to 2012 and GW2 since beta (2012). These aren't spacey type games of course, but in terms of PvP/PvE balance, they suited me *much* better then Eve ever did. In GW1 I could FA when I wanted to, in GW2 I can WvW when I want to.
I expect that in the future I may split my time between GW2 and ED along PvP/PvE lines. When I'm feeling social I might play GW2, but when I'm feeling like I want to get away from it all, I'll play ED. Can't get much further away from anywhere than in ED, after all.
Point #3: Just because I don't want to PvP in ED doesn't make me a bleeding heart carebear across the board. It just means I don't want to PvP in ED.
Hope this makes sense.