Can't say I disagree, I find the abusive tone of some of the posts and the derisory comments levelled at the developers to be far beyond what should be expected of the consumer and far beyond what should be expected of a forum contributor. I have a pretty low bar with what regards "constructive" posts, weighing in an opinion without insulting someone is all it takes, yet so many of the forum's users cannot even manage to do that. Every post they make offers a thinly veiled insult at people who, from all accounts, pour their hearts and souls into their work.
Most of what I desired for the game has been added in Frontier's own unique way and I can't say that all of the decisions appeal to me. Some of the introductions have been quite unappealing in fact, but the base game that I bought, is still in here and I still enjoy it immensely, particularly alongside the introductions and changes that do appeal to me and that have made the game more interesting at the surface level (e.g. putting faces on mission givers or adding voices to traffic control).
Landing a ship - FA OFF - above a new world, or on it, is a feeling that never gets old. This is why I'm waiting with baited breath for them to expand the possible planets we can land on and environments we can see while doing it.
I think the best way to enjoy Elite is to "chill out". Space is not a place where things can be rushed; it cares not about the birth and death of stars and cares less on the petty trials and whims of man. Space is chill... be like space.