As a former bored player, I'll give you my two cent.
First of all, despite all the talk that the combat got harder, with a little practice, you'll adapt. Buy a maneuverable ship, go to low RES first, then to high ones, then to hazardous. I recommend a Vulture.
I know what you're talking about. I did all activities in this game and I find most of them boring, except bounty hunting, which is my sole occupation these days. At first, I didn't had enough patience with ED many flaws, and I abandoned the game. After a bunch of space sims and some disappointment, I still longed for ED, not knowing why. Now that I'm back, I know: because of what you like. You like to stay parked at stations because ED has an amazing presentation and once you learn to focus on that, every activity becomes "better".