Play Horizons & switch off your headlights?
The lighting is a little messed up in Odd right now but what you describe is how the game is intended to be (for the past 2-3 years). You have ship lights, SRV lights, an on-foot torch, then you have a single star light source (whichever is closest or brightest, I don't remember how that game engine limitation is handled) and ambient light from the skybox.
Go to the night side of an airless planet far out away from the galactic core and it will be almost completely black, you'll need night vision just to find a place to land
