General / Off-Topic I want you to be brutally honest with me.

[Deleted member 110222]

I weigh 320 pounds, all fat.

I have near zero stamina, getting breathless just going up the stairs.

Mum has put me on a diet, but that's not enough alone.

The problem is that I'm near to passing out within minutes of doing anything physical. I just don't know what to do, as I really cannot find the energy to keep going.

 

[Zieman]

You need to excercise.
That doesn't mean running to exhaustion several times a day, mind you.
At your condition, you need to start slow. Baby steps.
Get outside your apartment and walk. Around the block at first. Longer walks later when you build up the stamina.

 

[EdzUp]

I would start slow, cut down on what you eat and move more but within limits. After a while just do a little more and keep going increasing your activity slowly until your ideal weight.

 

[Le-Betz]

If you are male it's only a question of time until you will have your first heart attack. Honest enough?

 

[Deleted member 110222]

You need to excercise.
That doesn't mean running to exhaustion several times a day, mind you.
At your condition, you need to start slow. Baby steps.
Get outside your apartment and walk. Around the block at first. Longer walks later when you build up the stamina.

I'm currently texting my best mate, and he's saying this near exactly. He has also suggested I try lifting weights. Do you think starting with walks and lighter weights, combined with healthy eating, would be a solid start? (I do want to build my strength, as I'm very weak)

 

[Chris Simon]

Forget the gym or such things. It will only make you eat more, but...

You have a dog, right?
What about just walking 5 miles, every day. As a start, to accommodate your body to moving. Do it for 6 months. Eat twice a day. Solid lunch and a light TV snack in the afternoon but miss the breakfast and don't eat after 6pm.

After 6 months of this, start jogging. Again, 5 miles, 6 days a week and regular walk on 7th.

Your dog will love this and after a first month or two, so will you.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

If you are male it's only a question of time until you will have your first heart attack. Honest enough?

Yes, I don't want you holding back. I will take zero offence here.

 

[Zieman]

I'm currently texting my best mate, and he's saying this near exactly. He has also suggested I try lifting weights. Do you think starting with walks and lighter weights, combined with healthy eating, would be a solid start? (I do want to build my strength, as I'm very weak)

Yes, absolutely.

 

[TigerTen]

Walk for 2-3 min. in your house every other hour, everyday.

Only eat healthy food, no fast food, watch your salt & sugar intake.

Rooting for you, you can do this...

TigerTen SAS

 

[Deleted member 110222]

Yes, absolutely.

That's good to hear, as my mum's BF has weights. I have shoes, so I guess I've got everything to get started.

 

[Asp Explorer]

You need a stressful event in your life.

Get divorced or lose your job - you'll lose weight pretty quick with that.

 

[Zieman]

That's good to hear, as my mum's BF has weights. I have shoes, so I guess I've got everything to get started.

Remember to learn correct techniques with the weights right when you start. Your mum's boyfriend might be able to teach you, and of course the interwebs is full of info, if one just can weed out the useless info. Correct technique is essential from the very beginning of any weight lifting / gym activity, so you get more out of the training with lighter weights too, and you don't develop bad habits that will cause trouble (pains, injuries) if/when you ever get more serious with the excercises.

 

[Faded Glory]

As others have said, start small and build up. Set yourself goals that you can realistically meet, and once you've achieved them up the anti. Setting unrealistic goals will likely lead to failure.

Personally I'd start with the suggested walking. Again, set yourself a realistic goal of how often and how far. Low aerobic excercise is good for burning fat. Weights and other non cardio excercise are good for building muscle and that will increase your metabolism, but be careful, you can also hurt yourself if you excercise the wrong parts or if you overdo it.

Once you get started, and start to get a little energy and want to increase the pace, it can be well worth getting proper advice on what will do you the most good.

Finally, it takes time, but once you break through, it's life changing. I started to get out of shape in my 40's, it wasn't too much, but took me about two or three years of excersise and some diet changes to get into shape. Now, in my late 50's I mountain bike a lot (over a 1000 miles every summer) and through the winter I ski.

Good luck!

 

[Stealthie]

Best way to change your lifestyle is by sorting out routines and habits.

If you have routines or habits which involve, say, grabbing snacks while you're playing video games, find ways to break those habits.
At the risk of stating the obvious, one of the best ways to avoid snacking is simply not to buy the snacks in the first place.
That way, they aren't there when you want them.

By the same token, introduce healthy new habits.
Force yourself to, for example, go for a short walk after every meal.
Don't force yourself to walk a certain distance.
Give it a month or so and you'll probably find yourself wanting to do more.

Also, on that note, maybe get yourself one of those cheap Android Fitness Bands.
If you're the sort of person who like tracking progress, it'll keep track of how far you walk, your heart rate and blood-pressure etc.
Be advised that it's the phone software for those bands that makes them worthwhile.
Make sure you get one with decent software.

They reckon it only takes a couple of weeks of repetition for a thing to become habit so a positive change is only ever a couple of weeks away.
Once you've forced yourself to do something for 2 or 3 weeks it'll become habit and get much easier. [up]

 

[eqinox]

Throw out all the crap food you have in your home; candy, cookies, ice cream, sugar, white bread, pizza, burgers.

Start to eat healthy, while cutting back on sugar and carbohydrates in general. Learn to distinguish between being thirsty and hungry, drink lots of water. Eat lots of vegetables, salads and chicken instead of red meat or steak, drink water or tea instead of coke, whole grain bread and rice instead of burgers and fries, carrots or cucumber for snacks instead of candy or chips.

Combine with some light exercise, but remember to start slow.

Before you know it, you WILL feel better and have more energy, and your stamina will increase dramatically!

 

[Arry]

I weigh 320 pounds, all fat.

I have near zero stamina, getting breathless just going up the stairs.

Mum has put me on a diet, but that's not enough alone.

The problem is that I'm near to passing out within minutes of doing anything physical. I just don't know what to do, as I really cannot find the energy to keep going.

This is your last chance: Carry on the way you are now and you'll start dying. Not the nice sleepy release kind of death, the painful limb removal kind of lingering death. Your ankles will deform, you will become like a beached whale, unable to breath, to move; again, waiting in pain; for death.

This is you last chance: I understand that you are in your mid twenties; this means you have a chance of recovery. A chance of having a good body shape and form when you lose the extra weight. After late twenties, you'll need surgery, to remove access skin etc. Which means lots of ugly scars and displaced parts, such as nipples or belly button.

This is your last chance: You can make a difference. Set your targets. You can't do anything; because basically; you DON'T DO anything. You sit on your and play games, watch films, listen to music and of course; eat. That said you can change all of this; a little at a time. It has to be a little at a time, because otherwise, you will kill yourself. Work out how many time you climb the stairs every day and do it once more; each and every day. Increase what you do; make a list of everything you do. Trips to the kitchen, whatever and increase those trips etc. Progress. One small step at a time.

Then there is the food: Change it. Cut it down. You know the rules, you are old enough to understand what is good for you and what is JUNK.

If you put your dog on a diet, it will lose weight, because it cannot just help itself.

 

[Stigbob]

The less you do the less you can do, start walking don't overdo it everyday you'll get further and be less out of breath. Swimming is also great but if you do it as a primary exercise thing you'll end up swimming for hours every day and that gets very boring a waterproof player and headphones is a good idea.

 

[Ian Skippy]

Just my 2c:

1) Forget about building muscle mass for now.
2) Eat less, and eat only real food. So no take-away and crap like that.
3) Move more. Walking is excellent at first.
4) Once you've lost a fair amount and slowly start to feel better, start jogging.
5) When you can comfortably jog a fair distance, only then start thinking about lifting weights.

And the most brutal of all: nobody becomes fat due to moving not enough. You become fat by eating too much, and by eating too much crap. If you cant control your diet, no amount of exercise will fix it. Running 10 miles per hour for 15 minutes (which you totally wont be able to do right now, not even close) will burn as much energy as a single mars/snickers/whatever bar. More positively framed, you can probably 'earn' a full hour of running on a professional level by simple reductions in your energy intake. Oh:

6) Get earplugs/headphone. Get metal that works with your walking pace (music can be at double/quadruple temp, as long as it 'fits'). It works wonders.

 

[Speedcuffs]

Motivation. You need motivation, even to start with the smallest things.
Take that dog out!
The dog will love you for it
Pretty soon, the dog will be telling you it's time to go out!

 

[dayrth]

Walking and swimming are good ways to start. The important thing though is to make it regular and often. Just a short walk every day will help, as long as it is every day.
Dieting will help too, but make sure it is a healthy diet. Joining a group can help enormously. They can help with eating the right food to keep you fit and give a lot of support. Slimming World is a good one. Helped me loose weight. Won't happen overnight, but you can achieve steady progress, which is better for you than sudden weight loss. As you loose weight you will find the exercising easier.