you need to be at least 2500 m away from the base you were killed at.it will light up when you are at the corrected erm away distance...I'll try to refund. I gave this game a second chance and a stupid glitch ate my favorite engineered ship I spend so much time together with. I was very disappointed before, but chose to close my eyes on flying rocks and dumb AI, pointless on-foot missions always involving brainless shooting, poor performance and weird lighting, planets and stations becoming dull and ugly. Now that I know I can lose other ships with no option to re-buy makes me sick.
There are issues filed on the Issue Tracker with all the same symptoms back in May-June and all of them are still "confirming". I don't see this being resolved and this is just too much of a chance to give.
PS I want to thank the community and admire your loyalty and patience. Hope one day F-dev will be able to really understand how lucky they are to have all of you with them
and don't forget your energy packs