but i was fortunate not to have taken my ship somewhere where there was high risk of losing it.. i was playing it safe, simply trading my way up. Would I have considered taking my nice expensive ship to a resource point as you've described? hell no. I like a bit of fun now, but not with that much to lose. Now you say you like a thinking game.. something that makes you think.. and you don't mind dying.. well it all boils down to risk and reward.. you took the risk with the possibility of later reward, but it didn't pay off.. you had no fall back, you knew that.. but you still took the risk.. and went for it. There was noone else setting your destination, and noone else pointed your ship at that resource point. You may have just hit the asteroids there, but in truth, it would have been just as easy for another pilot or even an npc to trash your ship, the detail doesn't matter,.. just that you were there without insurance is the bit that mattered and it is totally the reason why you didn't get the same ship you lost back after the problem.
As for lag.. well now, not a lot can be done about lag sadly, on the internet, can't really keep on putting all the blame on lag now, so many factors and causes for that.. and we sadly have to allow for its existence no matter what game we play. The truth is.. lag or not.. there exists a system in the game that could and would have covered the full cost of your ship for a much lower cost than a full rebuy if you'd flown with that much floating about as pocket change.. and its a fact everyone who plays this game either knows about and budgets for .. or takes the risk knowing it, and it can go either way.
Things just didn't go your way and that is sadly in noone elses lap but yours. As has been pointed out, you still have your rep, and with so many opportunities now to make credits different ways, you can soon trade up through the ships again, especially as you will have the knowledge from the starter ship how to make the money again.
So its either suck it up and accept that you made the mistake of flying without money to cover the rebuy, and then just get back to where you were after a much shorter replay time.. or.. you can beef about it and blame anything but your decision to fly without insurance and just let bitterness take a hold.. which solves nothing.
I'd personally jump right back in the saddle and play on.. Blazing a new trail could be actually quite fun?