You probably never played FSX, then. Elite, when compared to other simulators, is almost arcadishly easy.
I agree that the training missions don't really work, sometimes, and there's much better tutorial on the way, like I said. But in any case, you will have to spend an hour in controls menu, thinking, making notes and tweaking and re-tweaking. There's no way around it. Keys can be made more ergonomic, oversensitive axes can be tweaked. But you will have to do this yourself. Even if I gave you my bindings and told you what's what, it wouldn't do you any good.
I've played quite a bit of flight simulators and space combat sims. This game appears to have been purposely made to be as complicated as possible.
I went into solo mode and picked a mission, simply to find one ship to destroy. Spent around 2 hours trying to locate any ships. Finally found some and one was "mission objective: wanted", so I began to engage. I shot it until it said I'd destroyed it and then I'm attacked by some security forces and destroyed. So you're supposed to destroy a ship but then security attacks you for it? Very confused.