ok, it must be so simple that I cant figure it out. I hate taking my Conda out the mail slot and i always leave paint behind. Where is the undock button so i can drink my beer while jarvis takes me out!
IF you have an advanced docking computer, the "auto launch" option for undocking is automatic. You can turn it off in the right hand panel under "ship"->"flight assistance". If you have the module and auto-launch is not the undock option you see at stations, check there to make sure you don't have it turned off. ("auto-launch" is the name for the automatic undock)