Welcome to the BGS, OP. You just learned an important lesson that many haven't figured out - the BGS was never meant to be "played", and the only way to "play" it is to bang your head against the wall in boredom and frustration until you're so sick of the game that you want to rage quit.
It's not the BGS's fault, it's the fault of many players for trying to make a game out of something that is not a game, and was never intended to be.
My advice is to let the BGS be what it is - a background simulation, nothing more. Go out and fight PvP, be a pirate, have moon buggy races, find and shoot aliens, explore galactic points of interest, mine... do whatever fun activity allows you to actually enjoy the game, rather than feeling like you're smashing your own head with a hammer every time you turn it on.