No, it is not a troll post I genuinely wanted other Cmdr's opinions.)
Okay, some suggestions:
I'd recommend investing in 2x point defence (utility slot); place them on the top of the ship as that will give them the best ability to defend against torpedo and missile barrages; these are mostly what are destroying people once shields are down as they have high damage potential over short time frames.
Don't bother with chaff; Ani is a physically huge target. You can't hide behind glitter, AI mostly use fixed weapons anyway, so don't bother - invest in 2x point defence (this will shoot down most of the missiles and torps being sent your way, negating a HUGE damage potential) and the rest A rated shield boosters. 6x A rated SB's add ~120% shield strength; that's going to more than double the base stat.
Don't get discouraged, it sucks to die, but if you can evaluate what happened and understand a little why it might have happened, there is much that can be gained from the experience.