If you want to sit there whimpering like a scared wittle puppy dog that is fine. We don't know why our ships lose control. It may not be their fault, it might be from dropping out of hyperspace. It may be their best weapon against us, and they are hoping they can intimidate us.
( I am RPing a bit here, so don't take anything too seriously. I think a lot of what it does is just to make things more cinematic.)
*dons RP cap*
Patience in all things CMDR. You must remember that this is a race that had its very existence threatened by a virus unleashed on them by us. The fact they arent destroying CMDRs on sight should give us pause; we dont know what their intentions are. They may well have lost all stomach for a fight with us, knowing what we are capable of. They may be gathering intel for future malicious use. We. Dont. Know.
What we DO know is they can disable our ships at will, and there isnt a damn thing we can do about it. For this reason alone, sparking war at this time is atrociously ill-advised until we find out how to prevent this ship disabling tech they have, we wouldnt stand a snowflakes chance in hell. Lets bide our time and counter their tech whilst we figure out their intentions.