General / Off-Topic Child rearing and mentally scarring your own offspring with youtube

[FuzzySpider]

My kid is now 3 months. Apparently he likes to dance, and thus I find myself holding him up and gently bouncing him up and down in time to music on youtube while he attempts to do something with his arms. The music stops and he goes a bit bananas, stating and reiterating "Erg! Gerg! Erg!" until it starts up again.

The problem is that if I have to listen to Gangham Style one more time I am going to have a nervous breakdown.

So I tried something that I like that is good to dance to. The problem is this...

Spoiler

[video=youtube;3HdX5b5n-8I]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HdX5b5n-8I[/video]

With the likes of Santa Hates You I am wondering whether or not I am going to either;

1. Give the little lad nightmares.

2. Make him into a dark, insular, introvert with weird cultural and intellectual tastes and preferences which make him something of an outcast growing up and beyond, just like his father.

3. Manufacture the very next evil overlord of planet earth, to whom everyone reading this will eventually bow down in supplication (this one wouldn't bother me too much to be honest).

So... my fellow Elite: Dangerous playing denizens of the internet, help me justify to myself my decision to ruin my own childs life merely because I can't listen to Mambo Number 5 anymore, or helpfully suggest something else the little guy can bop to.

 

[Adept]

Don't worry

https://mic.com/articles/87385/scie...al-fans-and-classical-music-lovers#.lVsTpJ12m

 

[Demascus]

Or you know, you could just stop subjecting your child to music off of youtube.

 

[Calico Jack]

The Frozen soundtrack has been in my car CD-player for about 4 years. Three months! You know nothing of true suffering. Yet.

 

[FuzzySpider]

Or you know, you could just stop subjecting your child to music off of youtube.

Not an option.

It's something that gives me some respite from assuming the identity of a crow and cawing, a cow and mooing, or a cat and meowing.

I can't explain how much I need this.

The Frozen soundtrack has been in my car CD-player for about 4 years. Three months! You know nothing of true suffering. Yet.

Was there no method to persuade your youngen's to listen to something more wholesome, like Lawnmower Death?

 

[Demascus]

Just give it one of those pacifier things, put in the crib box thing and put on some headphones with music you like. Problem solved!

 

[Arry]

It looks like it is about that time, for working out, who is the boss? Right now, he is winning that discussion. Anything different is a distraction and will stop the tantrums, the question is, who decides what that will be.

 

[ethelred]

My kids like music with beats, so anything they can dance to is good for us.

Sadly they enjoy it most when I dance with them and that is knackering so it just transfers the problem.

 

[Sir.Tj]

I'm proud to report I have totally traumatised both my children in many many ways...

I brainwashed them with music from Queen, Led Zepplin, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones along with Blues music, Motown the list goes on..from the day they were born.

They are now 'orrible teenagers and My 16yr old son still loves the music and self taught himself the Drums by listening to Zepplin and working out the beats. He's currently into Big Band and Frank Sinatra... My job there is done.

However,

My 13yr old daughter is another matter..... I have now totally disowned her and refuse to allow her access to the radio while we are in the car.... Kiss FM indeed... I have failed as a Father...

I've always said to them "Listen to every kind of music you can and make your own mind up on what you like and dislike.

I bought no1 son a record player last year and at Christmas bought him a great Bob Crosby Record I'd found. He had to open all the joke records first though which included.

A tribute to Ada Alsop
Ena Baga the happy Hammond
Songs of Praise
Ken Dodd Tears of Happiness


His face was a picture as he unwrapped them...

It's fun to be a parent sometimes...

 

[verminstar]

My daughter has seemingly inherited my own taste in music which is almost all electronica/house and everything in between. Youtube is ok fer general playing in the background but she uses itunes and has downloaded thousands of hours worth, mostly fer samples as she is beginning to dabble in producing. Shes autistic and has been fascinated with the music from no age...she gets lost in it and it calms her down ironically enough.

14 years old and her musical influences include Jan Hammer, Jean Michel Jarre, Enya, Chemical Brothers, Faithless and Dido, Carl Cox, Moby and thats just from what she copied from my collections that I know about. She has a big collection.

So I have cursed her it seems even though she has also started listening to something that sounds like a mixture of jazz and drum and bass...something that doesnt float my boat but thats why headphones are so cool.

Ambient music is widely used in autism for its calming influences so her tastes were always gonna be...different from others and not the same as other kids. From the earliest age though, even major meltdowns could be defused with music and now she has since done fairly major research projects for school to try and explain how it works and how different tempos affect different moods.

Never underestimate music and the influences it has on kids...she teaches me something new every day ^

 

[Calico Jack]

My daughter has seemingly inherited my own taste in music which is almost all electronica/house and everything in between. Youtube is ok fer general playing in the background but she uses itunes and has downloaded thousands of hours worth, mostly fer samples as she is beginning to dabble in producing. Shes autistic and has been fascinated with the music from no age...she gets lost in it and it calms her down ironically enough.

14 years old and her musical influences include Jan Hammer, Jean Michel Jarre, Enya, Chemical Brothers, Faithless and Dido, Carl Cox, Moby and thats just from what she copied from my collections that I know about. She has a big collection.

So I have cursed her it seems even though she has also started listening to something that sounds like a mixture of jazz and drum and bass...something that doesnt float my boat but thats why headphones are so cool.

Ambient music is widely used in autism for its calming influences so her tastes were always gonna be...different from others and not the same as other kids. From the earliest age though, even major meltdowns could be defused with music and now she has since done fairly major research projects for school to try and explain how it works and how different tempos affect different moods.

Never underestimate music and the influences it has on kids...she teaches me something new every day ^

Inspirational. My youngest, age-four, has autism and suffers from meltdowns due to the fact she can't communicate what she wants. She loves to find music on Youtube, but I have never tried ambient music to help her calm down, so I'll give that a go.

I'm sure I have some 90's Chill out CDs in the attic!

 

[FuzzySpider]

Ambient music is widely used in autism for its calming influences so her tastes were always gonna be...different from others and not the same as other kids. From the earliest age though, even major meltdowns could be defused with music and now she has since done fairly major research projects for school to try and explain how it works and how different tempos affect different moods.

Here ya go verminstar:

Spoiler

[video=youtube;-ufvhNGf1lY]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ufvhNGf1lY[/video]

Vidna Obmana is one of the few things that makes sleep possible for me. My son has inherited my insomnia too, it seems, I'm going to try this on him now you've mentioned it.

 

[Sir.Tj]

The forum does get a bad rap sometimes with people screaming Toxic etc...

Nice when a little thread like this turns up and just goes to prove them wrong.

Still not sure why my son didn't like his xmas pressie though..

I mean who wouldn't want that?

 

[Ian Phillips]

So..... I introduced my two lovely girls to Royal Blood, which has now turned into the most requested CD when we are in the car.

[video=youtube;bSdtvfBQd6c]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSdtvfBQd6c[/video]

As something in return the oldest introduced me to Disturbed...
[video=youtube;u9Dg-g7t2l4]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9Dg-g7t2l4[/video]

The youngest has discovered ELP recently, so I guess I should be satisfied with a job well done!

 

[Sir.Tj]

Using them for the launch trailer was a pretty good idea.

 

[SG Cersed 1]

I've got my oldest daughter, who is 9 y.o. into my music. Things like SOAD, The Pixies, Metallica Etc. Etc. My youngest daughter, who is almost 3, loves Rob Zombie for some reason. Who woulda thunk. lol.

 

[ethelred]

My daughter has seemingly inherited my own taste in music which is almost all electronica/house and everything in between. Youtube is ok fer general playing in the background but she uses itunes and has downloaded thousands of hours worth, mostly fer samples as she is beginning to dabble in producing. Shes autistic and has been fascinated with the music from no age...she gets lost in it and it calms her down ironically enough.

14 years old and her musical influences include Jan Hammer, Jean Michel Jarre, Enya, Chemical Brothers, Faithless and Dido, Carl Cox, Moby and thats just from what she copied from my collections that I know about. She has a big collection.

So I have cursed her it seems even though she has also started listening to something that sounds like a mixture of jazz and drum and bass...something that doesnt float my boat but thats why headphones are so cool.

Ambient music is widely used in autism for its calming influences so her tastes were always gonna be...different from others and not the same as other kids. From the earliest age though, even major meltdowns could be defused with music and now she has since done fairly major research projects for school to try and explain how it works and how different tempos affect different moods.

Never underestimate music and the influences it has on kids...she teaches me something new every day ^

Another parent to an autistic girl - like you daughter Verminstar my 6 yo has always been fascinated with it and can sing pitch perfectly only after a couple of listens to most tunes, she's also good at mimicking rhythms and dancing as mentioned before.

She just doesn't speak!

 

[[VR] Mad Mike]

as far as covers go, that Sound of Silence aint bad.

 

[verminstar]

The forum does get a bad rap sometimes with people screaming Toxic etc...

Nice when a little thread like this turns up and just goes to prove them wrong.

Still not sure why my son didn't like his xmas pressie though..

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/LzBr9pDCb6M/hqdefault.jpg

I mean who wouldn't want that?

We may not agree in political beliefs or religion, gaming mechanics or even whether milk goes in first or last into a brew...but kids change the goalposts. Even though meself and fuzzy fer example are poles apart, the one thing we do have in common is our kids...sorta. They make us more mature by forcing us to put their needs above our own, and they make us immature when we put them into shopping trolleys and race up and down the aisles of a shopping centre and making race car noises till security throws ye out or the misses threatens to divorce ye if ye dont grow up.

Oh and fuzzy? Ye might think its hard work now but...this is just the warming up phaze. The real test has yet to come...teething, sleepless nights, going to work with little bit of sick on yer shirt, watching tractor tom over and over and over on nickjnr while yer resigned to watching yer own sports with the volume down after they finally go to sleep...all that stress ahead of ye...Im almost jealous that the best times are ahead of ye and happy that yer the one whos gonna suffer and not me ^

Although if its any consolation, the stress and the worry never goes away no matter how old they are. Unconditional love...no matter what they do, ye never stop loving them...even when they having a major meltdown tantrum and yer keeping yer voice soothing while they are kicking punching and screaming in yer face.

Yer a lucky guy...your journey has barely even started ^

 

[Sir.Tj]

Just wait till they hit teenage years..

I've been a single parent for 8 years and we've had some pretty tough times and great times as well, but we've come though them together and we have a very strong bond between us because of the situations life threw at us.

As I said earlier teasing,torturing my lad is a hobby of mine and he certainly gets his own back (occasionally.) The day will come when he wins the play fight and we'll both be a bit sad when it happens but that tends to be the relationship Dads and Sons have but we both know that we have each others backs 100%.

Daughter has me wrapped round her little finger as any Dad with a daughter will totally agree with. Sh'e hate for me to mention that she's quite sweet on Ed though, I mean really hate that.... lol......

I'm constantly moaning at them about the house being a total... mess... and lights being left on... and cups and plates in bedrooms...and clothes on the floor....and the cupboards instantly being emptied of food...Y'know that scanners meme????

But I really wouldn't change a single thing, it made me a much better person and in all honesty probably a better parent as well.

But, Verminstar the best times are always to come.