Y'see, this is the sort of "lowest common denominator" logic that can end up ruining an online game.
If a thing is possible in a game then some people will do it and the only way to counter that thing is to indulge in the same thing yourself, which means you can't do other things instead and it ends up with that thing being the only thing you can safely do in the game.
Which is why there's always a "best gun" to have in multiplayer FPSs and a "best car" to have in multiplayer acing games etc.
Trouble is, in an FPSs and racing games, there's only ONE objective and everybody's trying to achieve the same thing so it's not such a big deal.
In a game like ED, where some people might be traders, some people might be miners and some people might be explorers, if the only way to ensure your survival is to "git gud" at PvP then I'm afraid all those other facets of gameplay are going to have to go and we're all just going to have to buy tooled-up FdLs and shoot at each other for a few months, until we find a different game.
Rep!
Although, "Getting Good at PvP" doesn't mean you need to fly an FDL in PvP meta battles spec.
It just means not flying a min/max trader with paper (or no) shields, and paper hull.
I'm terrible at PvP, yet I've only succumb to an unexpected attack once. And i mostly blamed my old gamepad for cutting out for 2 seconds at a critical time (when i wanted to boost!), although, it was all over in 6 seconds anyway, so i doubt it would have made much difference. Lol
But being a sitting duck probably didn't help matters.
So I've "gotten good" by replacing my old gamepad with a new one. Lol