General / Off-Topic I am currently suffering a major low point, and I don't know what to do.

[Slopey]

The only thing I could hazard a guess at, is saying the Asperger's, according to some clinical theory, does grant the individual high intelligence. Academically, I did well in school, which considering how much I was hounded by bullies, I think supports the theory. I do think that if I were in a peaceful school environment I would have done much better in tests, and the doctor has also mentioned this theory.

I'm not bragging. I'd rather be average intelligence but normal social skills.

In a way, my logical thinking can be a curse. :/

Hi Un1k0rn, my son has Aspergers (or High Functioning Autistic Spectrum Disorder as they call it these days) and has been in a similar situation.

I'll send you a PM if that's ok rather than discuss it here, but I'd be happy to chat

First up though, if you're not managing to cope with your feelings at the moment, for whatever reason, please do call someone. That's very important.

More details in the PM, but in a nutshell - always remember there are people who are around to help if you need them, might not be immediately apparent, but they'll be there and they will listen. Also, ASD is a challenge - no doubt, but it can also a super-power and many industry/world/tech leaders are on the spectrum and have achieved things which no neurotypical person could do, so although it doesn't seem so, it can be a great asset. The other thing to remember is that they now reckon that everyone is on the spectrum somewhere, just some more so than others, so you're not alone - far from it

Anyways - happy to chat and I'll pop you over a message.

 

[Sir.Tj]

Good to hear,

Honestly we all have low points in life, they are what make teh high posts so great.

Understand that there is always someone willing to listen and help, even if it's only on the end of a phone/

Make sure you do call them please.

And contact Slopey, he's a good lad.

 

[Hell Razor5543]

I am speaking to my male cousin as I am writing this, and he has told me that both he and his sister, when they are talking to others with Asperger's, highly recommend reading the books by Desmond Morris (such as "The Human Animal" and "People Watching"). because they help with social anxiety, and to read other peoples' social and emotion cues much better. Because it is not natural to those with Asperger's they need to be kind to themselves, as they have to expend more effort in reading other peoples cues, and as a result larger social groups will tire them out more quickly.

 

[CMDR Cosmic Spacehead]

Un1k0rn, I'm off for the night.

Best of luck with your phone call(s), and be safe.
We're all a big old family here, (we even squabble like one), but, we're all here if you need us, and I'm sure others are going to be hanging around all night.



I have no idea if you'll find this funny in the slightest, but head on over to my really stupid thread, that's so incredibly dumb, it's hilarious.
Try it out. It's oddly relaxing, and has kept me grinning like an idiot for days.

https://forums.frontier.co.uk/showthread.php/351397-The-Pointless-Predictive-Text-Thread

I've nearly wet myself several times.
And I'm apparently intelligent. So who knows, it might give you some relief from feeling low, even if it's just for a while.

Be safe, see you on here tomorrow.
(That's an order!)

CMDR Cosmic Spacehead

 

[Garbarrage]

Please read my earlier post and contact the samaritins now, if you are feeling as bad as you are. They are trained professionals who will be able to help.

The call is free and they will be there for as long as you need them to be.

To other posters, all the kindness and support I'm sure is appreciated but please consider very carefully before posting.

I have to agree. Unicorn, you need to talk to someone qualified. Other than support, you won't find the help you need on a forum.

Get professional help. Get your head straight. Everything else will follow. It will take time, but you have more of it than you think.

The important thing is that you get help from someone who really knows what they're doing. The Samaritans is a good place to start.

 

[Minonian]

Anything better than continue like this, and do it all alone him against the whole world, but some of us is just too pig headed to do otherwise i guess. Yep... I talked about myself. be smart, you don't have to be alone.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

I'll be calling Samaratins (spelling?) at midnight, when I have some privacy.

I've sent a long e-mail to Mind.

I'm a little worried about contacting the NHS right now, given the cyber-attack today. What should I know about that? Should I avoid calling unless I find myself putting a knife to my neck? (Don't mean to be dramatic. That's how I usually think about it, unfortunately.)

 

[Minonian]

What cyber attack?

 

[Deleted member 110222]

What cyber attack?

NHS got hit by an attack, ransomware I think. Check out BBC News.

 

[Sir.Tj]

Call the Samaritans, they are there 24/7, they will be able to advise you and help. Also reply to Slopey.

 

[Minonian]

Ah, i see. than yes you do better to wait a few days but do not forget about it. It's better to late than never but the best is as soon you can.

 

[Yaffle]

I'll be calling Samaratins (spelling?) at midnight, when I have some privacy.

I've sent a long e-mail to Mind.

I'm a little worried about contacting the NHS right now, given the cyber-attack today. What should I know about that? Should I avoid calling unless I find myself putting a knife to my neck? (Don't mean to be dramatic. That's how I usually think about it, unfortunately.)

Just call, let them worry about their computer systems.

As Tj said there's the Samaritans or Papyrus, which is aligned with your age group (https://www.papyrus-uk.org/about) on 0800 068 41 41.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

Call the Samaritans, they are there 24/7, they will be able to advise you and help. Also reply to Slopey.

Message sent, and I'll be calling as soon as I have some privacy at home.

My family don't know I'm feeling like this right now, and at the moment, I want to keep it that way.

 

[Minonian]

Message sent, and I'll be calling as soon as I have some privacy at home.

My family don't know I'm feeling like this right now, and at the moment, I want to keep it that way.

Always the secreting. That's our other cruse.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

Always the secreting. That's our other cruse.

Last time I involved then in a crisis, it ended very, very badly.

I'm not risking them being hurt again.

 

[Yaffle]

Last time I involved then in a crisis, it ended very, very badly.

I'm not risking them being hurt again.

Do what you feel is right with your family, but please seek help.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

Do what you feel is right with your family, but please seek help.

Done. Waiting on a reply.

 

[Jenner]

First thing. make an appointment and go and see your Doctor and explain how you feel.

Have a look online for support groups for Asperger's and see if there any local to you.

As roots said, consider one of the Elitemeets, people are very friendly...when you're not a Mod... and you'll find some great people there.

And one last thing, you are not the only person feeling the way you do, Depression can be extremely debilitating but the first step in combating it it to talk about it. so that's step 1 done already.

Pretty much this is my advice as well.

 

[Yaffle]

Done. Waiting on a reply.

Excellent. Good job.

 

[Sir.Tj]

Good lad, remember that there's always someone willing to listen.