I objected to the engineering thing as a matter of principle on the way in which it is implemented - not on the grind aspect. I've always considered that what people call the grind actually is the game. It is a sandbox sort of simulator I feel. And flying my various ships around, with a touch of trouble here and there, is what the thing is all about. So flying around to gather materials is no different to flying around being a courier, or shooting skimmers, or scanning alien monoliths, or trading, or any of the other activities that you take on when flying around. That is what the game is.
So objecting to the grind is really nothing more than objecting to the game itself - the fundamental game philosophy. So - why play it at all? If you want PvP then probably Eve does it better - go play that. But if it is not PvP that you want primarily and you still think it is a grind then plainly ED is not the game for you so go play one of the many other great space pilot simulators out there. Oh - wait ...
Anyway, it is probably a good thing for you to reach this realisation OP - best of luck to you.