General / Off-Topic Okay, I'm going to be straight with you.

[Deleted member 110222]

Since you are a fan of dragons, declare her your flame

Actually I like unicorns. As it happens, the day I gave her the dragon, she gave me a glass unicorn statuette.

 

[Patrick_68000]

Later. That comes later.

Sooner or later, the goal is to destroy all resistance

 

[rOmiLaYu]

Friendship drive charging...

 

[Patrick_68000]

Actually I like unicorns. As it happens, the day I gave her the dragon, she gave me a glass unicorn statuette.

She wanted to make you happy, it is sure

 

[Chris Simon]

Me and Mrs Stigbob still regularly go for movie and dinner dates after being together for decades because it reminds us of our first date.

Each to his/her own.

I didn't say it couldn't work. I just said it's the worst option.

 

[MottiKhan]

Fortune favors the bold. Talk to her and let her know that you have feelings for her.

Or be relegated to the friend zone.

 

[Asp Explorer]

Whatever you do - don't follow her around like a lost puppy

Be confident and show interest, just not too much. Good luck!

 

[Iskariot]

There's a girl I can't stop thinking about. We've known each other for a long time, and went through the same crap in the same secondary school. After school we didn't see each other for a while, total loss of contact.

Then by sheer chance we met again on an Aspergers forum. Since then, we consider each other very good friends. And I'm not just friends with her, but her entire family. Evidently I'm very popular with them.

No idea what I supposed to do. I've had crushes... Everyone does. But this one feels different. Probably because we've both gone through the same crap growing up.

Anyway, I really just need to vent. Feel free to comment, as you know I enjoy a civil discussion.

I have no idea how to go about this kind of stuff.
I am over 50, but never had a relationship and never will and don't want to either.

 

[jasonbarron]

Later. That comes later.

If our boy Uni plays his cards right there might be whole lot of that action in his near future! I liked MottiKhan's story about his wife; invite her for a friendly walk in the park-spring the "hold her hand" move (an oldy but a goody)-start banking all them Turkish baths

 

[Agony_Aunt]

Show her Elite: Dangerous. If she gets excited, she's yours.

If she says meh, give it up!

PS: Never, ever, take advice from me.

 

[MottiKhan]

...

PS: Never, ever, take advice from me.

Best advice I've heard so far.

 

[jasonbarron]

Show her Elite: Dangerous. If she gets excited, she's yours.

If she says meh, give it up!

PS: Never, ever, take advice from me.

And if she says she's saving herself for SC, run away fast!

 

[Agony_Aunt]

And if she says she's saving herself for SC, run away fast!

That's going to be one expensive girlfriend.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

Haha. She's more a retro style gamer. Modern 8/16/whatever-bit.

Though make no mistake. Her 3D modelling skills are phenomenal. Definitely her family. I'm also mates with her brother and he's an incredible animator.

 

[Manticore]

Just be a good friend.

If she wants more than that she'll eventually let you know.

Good advice.... also follow your intuition.

 

[Arry]

Haha. She's more a retro style gamer. Modern 8/16/whatever-bit.

Though make no mistake. Her 3D modelling skills are phenomenal. Definitely her family. I'm also mates with her brother and he's an incredible animator.

OK; I am going against the grain a bit here.

This is an old friend and so are the family and yes she could have mutual feelings for you. However: Sex, (are we allowed to use that word here) can really ruin a good friendship. Yes of course you have to raise the subject with her, because if you don't your head etc., is going to explode, but don't just dive in there at the first sign of it being a possibility. Do talk about it, privately, quietly and keep your gentleman's hat on.

I think with a friend, you can say something like: 'I had a dream about you last night and we...'

Many good friendships last a lifetime, they can be close, have the greatest trusting bonds and be places to share you most intimate secrets and fear. All without exchanging one drop of sweat. Let nature take its course and don't be afraid to fail or make mistakes, whatever direction events take the pair of you.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

OK; I am going against the grain a bit here.

This is an old friend and so are the family and yes she could have mutual feelings for you. However: Sex, (are we allowed to use that word here) can really ruin a good friendship. Yes of course you have to raise the subject with her, because if you don't your head etc., is going to explode, but don't just dive in there at the first sign of it being a possibility. Do talk about it, privately, quietly and keep your gentleman's hat on.

I think with a friend, you can say something like: 'I had a dream about you last night and we...'

Many good friendships last a lifetime, they can be close, have the greatest trusting bonds and be places to share you most intimate secrets and fear. All without exchanging one drop of sweat. Let nature take its course and don't be afraid to fail or make mistakes, whatever direction events take the pair of you.

I know this is going to sound like denial, but sex really is the last thing on my mind.

I just really, really, really enjoy spending time with her.

Physical stuff though... Pretty much my opinion is "Meh". I know it sounds like denial. But I really do mean this sincerely.

 

[Arry]

I know this is going to sound like denial, but sex really is the last thing on my mind.

I just really, really, really enjoy spending time with her.

Physical stuff though... Pretty much my opinion is "Meh". I know it sounds like denial. But I really do mean this sincerely.

Fair enough; to quote the old phrase: Keep calm and carry on as normal.

 

[MottiKhan]

I know this is going to sound like denial, but sex really is the last thing on my mind.

I just really, really, really enjoy spending time with her.

Physical stuff though... Pretty much my opinion is "Meh". I know it sounds like denial. But I really do mean this sincerely.

There's much more to intimacy than sex. A sharing of minds, hopes, dreams and fears. Being able to be yourself with another person and letting your guard down can be rewarding beyond measure. That doesn't necessarily mean remaining "only" friends.

 

[Deleted member 110222]

There's much more to intimacy than sex. A sharing of minds, hopes, dreams and fears. Being able to be yourself with another person and letting your guard down can be rewarding beyond measure. That doesn't necessarily mean remaining "only" friends.

And that's exactly my point, and why I made this thread.

I may not care much for physical intimacy... But emotional? Now that's a different kettle of fish.

It is no secret that I'm an extremely emotional individual, and I just "feel" for her so strongly. You get what I mean? I don't hold anyone else in quite the same regard as her.