I just think its wrong game mechanics, when gimbaled build have very different result regarding if opponent have chaff (or two) or dont have any.
Why would you want to take options away? The whole point about different builds is that they have different advantages/disadvantages.
Is that sarcasm really necessary?
1st dilema.... chaff or not, single or dual.... on ships with 4 utility slots yes, its dilema. Not only mine. And also even bigger dilema it is, because dual chaff is much more effective than single. And dual chaff = 2 utility slots, its half of slots of almost every pvp ship (yes, fdl is lucky)
2nd dilema, silent run. You said "absolutely no-one or nothing is preventing you doing it now". You are wrong, somenthing is preventing doing that - if you turn SR, you disable own shields, you dont know? So SR is viable only for hull tanks, and they are, countered already by many ways (packhounds, scramble, HYC, etc .... and incoming enzymes)
Your attitude is like "why you even dare to try create somenthing different, or even better as it is?"
They're not dilemmas, they are choices. You aren't trying to create something different, you are trying to take away choice.