My family went to San Tropez without me so I could go to Cologne. You could have gone, you were just not as motivated as me. To be fair I have been to San Tropez loads of times (we have a chalet there), I've not been to Cologne before and I like driving.
My family is my partner and my son and I am the only driver. If I didn't go, neither would they. I would come back to find my clothes out on the street.
It's not about motivation it's about survival.