Yes, if someone would come over and insult my poor bowling technique or roll a gutter ball in my lane that would be just annoying. Or even mildly annoying. And that would be a confrontation with someone physically standing next to you, and mocking you in a public space where people can recognize you. People shooting my space ship when I dont want that, or saying "lol u so noob"? That is mildly annoying at worst.
In Open, I would agree. You rolls the dice and takes your chances. FD has said this behavior is allowed, and until they say otherwise I'm fine with that. I normally play only in Open (the main reason I'm in Fleetcomm for DW2 is to increase the chances of interacting with fellow explorers)
But this thread started with a simple scenario: The difference between playing in Open, and infiltrating a private group with clearly stated rules with the intention of subverting them. You can do whatever you want in Open and excuse it by saying it's a game. Just like Bowling Champ can set up whatever jungle-rules full contact bowling scenario he wants in his lane.
He does NOT have the right to come to my lane and interrupt my game on the pretense that it's a game and we're all in the same bowling alley. And pretending to be helpful as an excuse to have him come to my lane just so he can keep sinking gutterballs on my turn, then saying "Well I play jungle-rules bowling" as a defense? Doesn't wash.
Again, that's the crux of the OP. There is a difference between playing the game in open as intended (jungle rules) and being as much of a jerk as you want (which is perfectly valid) and declaring all modes are jungle rules and feeling justified in going into anyone's game mode at any time to do whatever they want, regardless of the rules of the private groups.
There is a difference. One is valid gameplay, the other is not. Simple as that.
That's what the OP is all about. Everything being discussed after that is nitpicking the language.
Ah, ok. Language can be weird.
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