General / Off-Topic Is it wrong to just drop everything and pursue a life of blissful isolation?

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In the last few months I've been trying all sorts of new things.

These various activities make everyone around me happy because they see me doing something "normal".

But it does not make me happy. In fact my happiness levels are lowering. Actively getting out and about makes me feel worse.

The thing is I'm happy to not socialise and interact with people "irl". But it seems everyone around me expects me to do just that.

Here's my dream life: a job pushing trolleys at ASDA, and going home each day to my room to spend a few hours on my computer. I know it sounds like a crap dead end plan. But it's simple. Really simple. And I just wish people would accept that my life goals are pretty low. I don't want a relationship. I don't want a family. And I don't want the stress of a "successful" career.

I just want to live at home, pay my mum rent, and play a few video games. I frequently beg for advice on how to get into work. A simple supermarket job is all I really want. But nobody helps me. I want to help myself but I have no idea how.

I feel everyone expects me to do "more" because I happened to have a retentative memory at school. Truth is I fluked my way through school. Was a complete waste of time really.

There's a lot of things I'm doing right now because I feel like I'm expected to chase dreams.

But I just want to give those up, because really, the only dream I have is to push supermarket trolleys and pay my mum rent. Then cut myself off from the world for another night.
 

jasonbarron

jasonbarron
Dreams are all well and good, but if you don't have them you don't have them. Lack of self respect and a sense of self worth, though, can be restored with some kind of simple labor job doing almost anything as long as it's helpful to someone somewhere. Get a job, even a menial one, and you will be healthier in body and mind. Without self respect and self worth the body and spirit withers on the vine.
 

Chris Simon

Chris Simon
I am one of those people who do not believe in career chase. I think a job should be good enough to keep you fed with a roof over your head while at the same time not interfeering with your hobbies. We're here only once so we should at least try to have fun. :)

My job is not too dissimilar to what you're aspiring to. Instead of trolleys and flour I push bags of tea over the counter, but the main thing for me is to do as little as possible for acceptable amount of money and then go home and play videogames and build sail ships models.
I never wanted more from life and it looks like I'm not gonna get more anyway so why not just enjoy it.
 

jasonbarron

jasonbarron
Chris Simon said:
I am one of those people who do not believe in career chase. I think a job should be good enough to keep you fed with a roof over your head while at the same time not interfeering with your hobbies. We're here only once so we should at least try to have fun. :)

My job is not too dissimilar to what you're aspiring to. Instead of trolleys and flour I push bags of tea over the counter, but the main thing for me is to do as little as possible for acceptable amount of money and then go home and play videogames and build sail ships models.
I never wanted more from life and it looks like I'm not gonna get more anyway so why not just enjoy it.
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Not to be indelicate or anything, but you're kind of up there in terms of trips around the Sun, aren't you? As old as I'm picturing you, pushing tea bags over the counter at a mom & pop country store with bells on the door and maybe some post office boxes in the back sounds just about right:)
 

Chris Simon

Chris Simon
jasonbarron said:
Not to be indelicate or anything, but you're kind of up there in terms of trips around the Sun, aren't you? As old as I'm picturing you, pushing tea bags over the counter at a mom & pop country store with bells on the door and maybe some post office boxes in the back sounds just about right:)
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Hahah, yeah. It's my own store instead of mom's & pop's, but that sounds about right. I even have the bell on the door :LOL:
 

[PS4] Lorenzo Waringos

[PS4] Lorenzo Waringos
Nothing wrong with your dream. Little responsibility, doing what you want to, not hurting anyone. What does a career bring? Extra work, extra responsibility, very often very little extra money.

I don’t get my self-worth through the type of job I do, I get a little through having a job. I mainly get mine by trying to be the best human I can to those I encounter on a daily basis.

Anyone telling you your dream is wrong is projecting their fears on you. Ignore them.
 

Rob At Work

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Contentment is on the path of enlightenment.

Note: actually it isn't of the path, but damn well should be!

PS - stop over analysing everything everyone else thinks Mr Unikorn and focus on your own self worth/happiness
 

Chris Simon

Chris Simon
jasonbarron said:
Well, I managed to get called "Hitler" among other descriptive things yesterday, so at least someone notices that I have a gentle side:)
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It's the internet. We all get called Hitler, now and then. :LOL:

But yeah. We should get back to Un1 and his decision to pursue happy life rather than some fleeting "general success" the society is imposing on him.
 

Deleted member 110222

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Thank you guys. I think it's time I get people in my life to understand that I only really want a bit of peace and quiet. I really don't care if I get viewed as nothing more than a bloke who pushes trolleys.

Like I say. I have no big dreams of starting a family. So I've really no need to provide for anyone as I only need to cover my back.

And well, my back is pretty small. Like I say. My life costs: rent to my mum, food... And that's basically it.
 

Arry

Arry
Then go for it, but you have to make the effort. I understand that the 'trolley pushing job', is still just a dream, correct? Then you have to make that dream come true. Go to the supermarkets, talk to the guys doing the job you want to do and put yourself up for the job yourself. Make that part of your own dream come true.

I fully understand the need to earn, but be able to leave the work behind you each and every day. Not to have any responsibilities, to keep things as simple as possible and avoid the power struggles that can be found, in the work place. I have sort of come to the same conclusion; after working very hard, raising my self up, to being responsible for every thing I see around me at work. Dealing with impossible budgets, choosing who we had to let go this month and expecting those under me, to work harder and harder etc., taking my work home with me and working insane hours; all to find out that at the end of the day: To the company, I was just another number, an asset; that can be dissmissed as quickly, as last weeks rubbish. So I can see and appreciate, the simplicity of going to work and doing a job that does not require me to think, or go the extra mile and if offered a job to do just that. That paid all of my bills, I would take it tomorrow.

It is there you have your second issue: Work, pay your mum some rent and basically escape from the world. But what happens, after mum has gone? Would that job you need, still pay you enough, to sleep in the same bed, eat the same food and buy those games? I doubt it. So you will need to look ahead and plan something a little better for you future.

As I said. Go for that job you want, step towards your own dreams and make a start. Not many humans can say that they do a job that they really enjoy, really want to be doing, because they just do what they can, from the options available to them. They just get by.
 
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Chris Simon

Chris Simon
Un1k0rn said:
Thank you guys. I think it's time I get people in my life to understand that I only really want a bit of peace and quiet. I really don't care if I get viewed as nothing more than a bloke who pushes trolleys.

Like I say. I have no big dreams of starting a family. So I've really no need to provide for anyone as I only need to cover my back.

And well, my back is pretty small. Like I say. My life costs: rent to my mum, food... And that's basically it.
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A quote comes to mind:

When you stop caring what other people think of you, you've achieved a dangerous level of freedom. -Jim Carrey
 
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