General / Off-Topic Dogs don't close their eyes when they are dead

[Morbad]

My 13 -14 year old dog is dead, to be precise we euthanized her quite literally less than an hour ago because she was just in a deporable state given her age, nose bleeding, vomitting, weakness, agitated breathing, etc.

That's all.

Condolences for your loss. My animals have been my family in every meaningful sense of the word and I know how rough losing family can be.

Not crying would make me question your character truth be told.

I m not used to crying being raised the "boys dont cry" methology and it shows I guess as me crying looks like I m in physical pain or maybe even comical. Its nothing like the crystal clear and emotional "movie crying" we all know.

So its still rare for me and I try to supress it...sometimes I fail but I know that crying is not a show of weakness. It just shows how much the thing you lost was worth to you if it rocks your world like this.

/comfort

just let them (tears) go man, your companions deserve as much

Everyone handles grief in their own way; not crying doesn't imply not feeling.

I'll tear up while reading/watching a good story, but real loss, something that hits closer to home, and there are no tears to suppress, the pain is beyond any meaningful outward expression.

 

[jasonbarron]

Condolences for your loss. My animals have been my family in every meaningful sense of the word and I know how rough losing family can be.

Reading your various posts, it's eery how much you remind me of my brother Laird. He doesn't play ED, but in most respects his world view point and personal philosophies are
so close to your own I often wonder if you are really him in disguise.

 

[Morbad]

Reading your various posts, it's eery how much you remind me of my brother Laird. He doesn't play ED, but in most respects his world view point and personal philosophies are
so close to your own I often wonder if you are really him in disguise.

Couldn't be me. The only Lairds I'm aware of are long dead Scottish nobility and chemical company that makes thermal interface materials I use.

 

[Han Zulu]

My 13 -14 year old dog is dead, to be precise we euthanized her quite literally less than an hour ago because she was just in a deporable state given her age, nose bleeding, vomitting, weakness, agitated breathing, etc.

That's all.

So sorry to hear. We had to put down a couple of our family dogs in the past and it's hard. It's heartbreaking.

 

[Iskariot]

Not crying would make me question your character truth be told.

Everybody griefs differently.
Not everybody is able to cry, or feel emotions in the same intense way.

I grew up with cats. I love cats. Cats always lift my spirit.
I remember every single one of the cats in my life (I am 54 now), but never cried about their loss, as far as I can remember.
It's not just animals, I don't tend to cry when humans die either. I simply accept what is.
For me the intense emotions expressed by some in this thread are quite difficult to understand. My brain simply works differently.
I don't think there is anything wrong with my character though.

 

[lysan]

Everybody griefs differently.
Not everybody is able to cry, or feel emotions in the same intense way.

I grew up with cats. I love cats. Cats always lift my spirit.
I remember every single one of the cats in my life (I am 54 now), but never cried about their loss, as far as I can remember.
It's not just animals, I don't tend to cry when humans die either. I simply accept what is.
For me the intense emotions expressed by some in this thread are quite difficult to understand. My brain simply works differently.
I don't think there is anything wrong with my character though.

Well there are as you said many ways to express emotions, however to me my dogs through my life always somehow touch the soft spot, anything else just don’t trigger those emotions.

 

[Yaffle]

Really sorry to hear your news. We had to euthanase our dog a few years back, it still hurts. He had a bad heart problem, and on the last day could not walk or stand. Mrs Yaffs and I were with him at the end; he did shut his eyes.

I was astounded to hear from the vet later that very few owners are there for the final seconds, to me it was the least I could do for him, all that utterly unconditional love. I still wish I was the person he thought I was.

 

[Patrick_68000]

Well there are as you said many ways to express emotions, however to me my dogs through my life always somehow touch the soft spot, anything else just don’t trigger those emotions.

The cat and the dog are the greatest friends of the man.