Random Rambling Time!:
1) Griefing: Apparently we can't all agree on an acceptable definition of 'Griefing' which is interesting in itself. I tend to agree with the comparison to pornography, tough to nail down, but obvious with proper context. The general feeling is that purposefully causing another human being grief, for the sake of causing grief, is griefing. Causing grief in of its self doesn't necessarily make you a 'griefer' as we all make mistakes sometimes. I've gotten angry at someone before and said something mean, on purpose, to hurt their feelings. I soon regretted it and apologized. I quickly empathized with their feelings and knew I was wrong. However, if my goal in life is to lord over, put down, or be mean to people during normal every-day interactions, well, I guess you could make an argument that I'm a griefer for doing so. And you wouldn't be wrong. Intentions are harder to nail down, but for the person experiencing the hardship, intention isn't always important. Empathy I think is a big part of it. If you are unable to empathize with the people you interact with, that, I think is a different issue all together.
I have a friend, doesn't play Elite Dangerous, but enjoys games that are PvP-centric like Starcraft and Rocket League. He's a very good friend, kind, loyal, loving father and husband, BUT, he can not enjoy a game unless it's against other humans. The need to compete against other humans doesn't make you a griefer. Competition isn't griefing. The thing is, he wants to compete, not just dominate and belittle. To dominate or belittle others for the sake of dominating others, that kind of sounds like griefing to me.
2) Roleplaying (RP): I love RP personally, I think it's a great outlet of imagination and emotion. I agree that you should be able to RP as you like in game. If you want to RP a Bounty Hunter and attack ships with bounties, feel free to do so! However, think for a moment, do you attack NPC's and humans alike? Or do you attack humans exclusively? If it's humans only, why? Roleplaying, and then attacking humans only is an interesting dilemma. How do you RP attacking humans only? Let's muddy the waters further. If you RP a predator like a 'Reaver', do you attack every ship you see, or humans only? If it's RP, what is the difference between a solid contact and hollow contact? I'm not asking for a response, or justification, just be honest with yourself.
3) Open: Just like 'griefing', the definition of Open doesn't seem to be agreed upon either. Does Open = 'PvP, deal with it'? I don't think so. Does Open = 'PvE, leave me alone'? I don't think so either. Does it mean Open to all? I would think that sounds reasonable. That means no one 'owns' open. PvP, PvE, RPK; it's all there. Do any of those activities take precedence over another, I would argue no, because I interpret Open means Open for all I think. Personally speaking, I prefer to be around civil and polite company, and would prefer Open be a civil and polite game mode, but I don't own Open. I know others that want Open to be 'anything goes', but they don't own Open either. I've read a lot of 'if you don't like PvP, go to Private Group (PG) or Solo.' Ok, but I could write the very same thing. If you truly want PvP interaction, why not join/start a PvP PG? Just imagine a PG of PvP-centric players competing! Wouldn't that be heaven -on- Earth...er' Elite? My point is, Open doesn't seem to belong to anyone, PvE-PvP-etc. I personally never go into Open, because I have no desire to. Some people only want to play in Open for whatever reason, more power to you. Open is Open, it's your choice to play Open, no one is forced to play Open. Open is Open to all.
Anyway, sorry to ramble on for so long, just had to let it out I guess after perusing so many threads about the latest incident.