General / Off-Topic I have no friends. This needs rectifying!

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So I could use a wee favour from you fine folk :D

For reasons I don't exactly understand, I need to increase my friends list on that FaceBook thing. Now, I don't exactly use it.. so it's not for suddenly being everyone's best friend. And I'm not trying to sell anything either :D

Think of it as being... dormant acquaintances :D

If you wanna help me out, just click on this which simply goes to my FB page. (it's hidden to avoid bots from mining it). Please click] to confirm the address it's pointing to for safety :)

Anyway, I appreciate anyone who is willing to help, and after a few weeks feel free to remove yourself if you so wish - I won't take it personally :D
 
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Whomever is telling you to do this, ask them to stop and explain why :) Seriously, Facebook is just a technical voyeurism, and that is not 'healthy'.
 
I used to use Facebook for keeping in touch with family (as most of my cousins have emigrated to Australia) and a small number of friends, especially after I moved away for work. It's not a bad platform in some ways, but it's also really annoying - the final straw for me was when it insisted that I had to tell it my mobile number, but by that point I was already pretty irked about its advertising and the way the system seemed to know what else I'd been doing online, and by other services telling me to "sign in with Facebook". So I just killed it off in short order.

(I sort of know about tracking cookies, even though I'm not clear on why they exist or quite how they're used by other companies, but am not good at figuring out how to use only the ones I want. I find it really annoying that I can, for instance, look at a product on Amazon, decide that I actually don't want it, and then get hounded with ads trying to pressure me into getting it.)

I guess the moral of the story is: just because you're using Facebook's service, doesn't make you the customer. Like a lot of "internet services" companies - search engines, for instance - they are selling advertising, and the kind of granular demographic detail that Facebook gets from you enables really targeted advertising. No longer does a company need to say "let's advertise our product in this magazine because circulation is about 500,000 copies a month and it's mainly read by males 18-35", they can target their online ad to "white males aged 21-25, in this geographic area, who are single and like these competitors' products".

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In all seriousness, I'd like social media if I was allowed to control how social I'm allowed to be. Over the years I've cultivated some great friendships on shared-interest forums, and it seems like you CMDRs are a sterling bunch of folks, but I kind of like to keep my private life private unless and until I decide otherwise. (Unlike a friend, who recently livestreamed the birth of her first child.)
 
For reasons I don't exactly understand, I need to increase my friends list on that FaceBook thing.

you realize how creepy this sounds? :eek:

can't help you, sorry. the best i think i can do is ask you to ask yourself if that's really necessary. it probably isn't. but good luck anyway!
 
I used to use Facebook for keeping in touch with family (as most of my cousins have emigrated to Australia) and a small number of friends, especially after I moved away for work. It's not a bad platform in some ways, but it's also really annoying - the final straw for me was when it insisted that I had to tell it my mobile number, but by that point I was already pretty irked about its advertising and the way the system seemed to know what else I'd been doing online, and by other services telling me to "sign in with Facebook".

you don't need to give your mobile number to fb. not even your real name. i never did.

keep in mind though that your privacy is anyway as good as is the judgement of all your acquaintances. so probably compromised anyway.

So I just killed it off in short order.

yep, that works too.

but resistance is futile!
 
you don't need to give your mobile number to fb. not even your real name. i never did.

Really? It was most insistent, basically "if you don't provide your mobile number in X days then we'll delete your account". May have suspected me of not being real because I didn't bother with entering school/university/work details, liking anything, joining groups, or responding to its suggested "people you may know".

You're probably right about poor judgement. I've seen plenty of people exercise it, online and otherwise, and some of them are still friends.

Currently I'm resisting the job centre's pressure to sign up to something called "Linked In", which apparently is Facebook for professionals. They seem to think it'll help me find a job. I'm in two minds as to whether or not it's futile - haven't joined the hive mind just yet! ;)

Besides, I thought it was "Resistance is useless!" - but then, I was always more of a Hitchhiker's fan than a Trek fan
 
I shot my facebook account years ago. I needed to put the poor thing out of it's misery - In all honesty it is a vile thing which needs to be drowned in acid for being the single biggest waste of human time ever created. Sorry.
 
"if you don't provide your mobile number in X days then we'll delete your account". May have suspected me of not being real because I didn't bother with entering school/university/work details, liking anything, joining groups, or responding to its suggested "people you may know".

that's just bullying i think. google+ once threatened to close my account if i didn't provide my real name, and i politely asked them to gft. they did indeed close it. oh, the tragedy! i heard that later they became way more lenient with that policy (their marketing edge over fb was boasting about their accounts not being mostly fake, and didn't work out anyway). fb is afaik absolutely lenient. users are just meat for them, the more they can say they have the better.

Currently I'm resisting the job centre's pressure to sign up to something called "Linked In", which apparently is Facebook for professionals. They seem to think it'll help me find a job. I'm in two minds as to whether or not it's futile - haven't joined the hive mind just yet! ;)

yes, this is really worrying. linkedin is indeed useful, but it's also creepy as hell. mainly because in some sectors, specially software, there is really strong pressure to join. i never did and now that i'm practically retired i think i got away with it. but their recruitment policy is also truly jerk level. i still get a lot of invitations from people without them even knowing! (at least that's what they used to say when i contacted them about it, now i don't even bother anymore, i just plonk it).
 
yes, this is really worrying. linkedin is indeed useful, but it's also creepy as hell. mainly because in some sectors, specially software, there is really strong pressure to join. i never did and now that i'm practically retired i think i got away with it. but their recruitment policy is also truly jerk level. i still get a lot of invitations from people without them even knowing! (at least that's what they used to say when i contacted them about it, now i don't even bother anymore, i just plonk it).

I thought about Google+ (when I bought a smartphone, which to be fair hardly gets used for anything other than calls and texts, their policy was to auto-create an account for you; I deleted it), but nobody I know actively uses it. I think I'm a dinosaur who prefers to call, or to spend time with people, or - if there's no other option - to e-mail. That approach used to make me very unpopular in the office, where everyone, even folks two desks away, wanted the "email by default" approach, and slated me for my refusal to sign up to the office social network, use instant messaging, or have a shareable Outlook calendar.

Fortunately I'm not in the IT industries at all, but it's worrying that the job centre have zero respect for privacy. I admit that since I was last signing on as unemployed (a little under 20 years), the way people apply for jobs has totally changed and it has taken me longer than I'd like to adapt - to "applicant tracking software", for instance, which sounds creepy as heck even if it's totally innocuous. For instance, most of my background is in administration, but until last week my CV didn't contain the words "administration", "administrative" or "administrator" - if read by a human, it would be obvious, but apparently this software is just a dumb keyword search, and I'm led to believe that applications don't get read unless the software passes them, so it all gets overlooked.

I'm told Linked In works best if you have a network of ex-colleagues on there who'll recommend you to recruiters, vouch for your skills, etc. - so that's a problem straight out of the gate. Kind of makes me wish I was 20 years closer to retirement, instead of competing with people 20 years younger than me for entry-level work... I'm slightly too old to be a "digital native" or a millennial, too young to walk away.

But yeah. Bottom line? I find social networking and the way the internet largely runs these days to be creepy as all heck, and object to things like my phone GPS-tracking me and reporting it to a company in the north-eastern US whose motto is "don't be evil" (because that seems pretty evil to me, or at least pretty Orwellian).

Could be worse. They're not Kafkaesque yet.

The job centre, on the other hand...

Do I sound like a cantankerous old fool? I just think there has to be a better way, and kind of miss how the world was before everyone had laptops and WiFi.
 
you realize how creepy this sounds? :eek:

can't help you, sorry. the best i think i can do is ask you to ask yourself if that's really necessary. it probably isn't. but good luck anyway!
Let me guess Millennial? Every thing is creepy and offensive to that generation.
 
I have Facebook.

I think my last post was sometime in March.
Lol

I don't understand the need to share stuff with everyone.
When I (occasionally) go on Facebook, I end up just scrolling past everyone's boring posts thinking "Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care... Why am I here?". Then I close Facebook for another month or two.

Why do you need more friends?
Is a part of Facebook now gated unless you have X friends?

Facebook grind...

CMDR Cosmic Spacehead
 
I have Facebook.

I think my last post was sometime in March.
Lol

I don't understand the need to share stuff with everyone.
When I (occasionally) go on Facebook, I end up just scrolling past everyone's boring posts thinking "Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care. Don't care... Why am I here?". Then I close Facebook for another month or two.

Why do you need more friends?
Is a part of Facebook now gated unless you have X friends?

Facebook grind...

CMDR Cosmic Spacehead

Wish I could help you, OP, but I too gave up FB after a short trial period few years ago. When folks from HS (some 35 yrs ago) wanted to re-connect despite not hanging out back in our youthful HS years, I terminated my FB.
 

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I shot my facebook account years ago. I needed to put the poor thing out of it's misery - In all honesty it is a vile thing which needs to be drowned in acid for being the single biggest waste of human time ever created. Sorry.

Same. One day a couple years back, I archived my pictures and deleted my account. No announcements, no personal emails. Just pulled the plug.

Can't tell you how much better my life has been since.
 
I basically keep my Facebook alive so my old school buddies can get hold of me, should they feel the need.
So far I've reconnected with all of them, bar the one that actually introduced me to Frontier Elite II. Lol
I haven't really spoken to him since I manually docked my ship, when he claimed it was impossible, and can only be done with a docking computer. :D

Can't seem to find him anywhere. But to be honest, he was a bit of a tinfoil hatter.
Lol

I wonder if he plays ED....?
I wonder more if he actually uses the forums....
I also wonder if he still leaves in that creepy old boarding school of a house. Lol

I wonder alot.

CMDR Cosmic Spacehead
 
I basically keep my Facebook alive so my old school buddies can get hold of me, should they feel the need.

People said that was the main benefit of Facebook. And MySpace. And Friends Reunited. And, and, and...

Never actually happened. And to be honest, the only person I actually want to be in touch with from my school days, I talk to a couple of times a week. Life's good, and definitely better without anyone from school (or university, or any prior jobs) in it.
 
(Unlike a friend, who recently livestreamed the birth of her first child.)

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OP, please tell me this is for one of those "refer 25 friends" one entry per click competitions, otherwise I iz concerned because I can't think of any other reason for doing this.
 
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