Mobius is a great private group you can join: players versus environment, so you shouldn't have humans hunting you. There's about 7,000 Mobius players, so you may meet a few of them, but you likely won't get blocked out of landing. It's a good transition between solo play and open play, so you can learn more about the game but still have to deal with humans.
Landing queues would be no better than the current system, since you'll always get stuck behind autopiloters and people taking the landing time to eat their sandwich. I do agree with the idea for putting a timer on the pad. People will ignore loitering penalties, but perhaps the pad could automatically de-elevate your ship after 30 seconds of waiting.
In any case, OP, stick with the game some more. You'll either start to have fun, or you'll find something much more gamebreaking than a delayed landing to make you upset. Landings shouldn't be the thing that stops you from playing.