Well not realy i would quite like it to be real life..and have my very own viper mk 3 lol
however we live in elite dangerous as a character in that world, and just how that experience plays out is dependent on the rules at play. Some rules can be equated to real life and highlight simalar negative effects that would have on the experiance.
The excuse that its a game so no real life comparisoms can be made destroys all concept of realism in games.. often the main atraction to a game is its realisme.
Then why are players supposed to accept out-of-game reasons for being attacked? I mean if we can't assign poor character to gankers because 'It's just a game', how can we assign bad behavior to Commanders that avoid ganks in the same setting? I guess you could wiggle around with selective application if that soothes you, but it's just another method of justifying poor behavior. The Golden Rule should apply in space.