Sorry to read that you had the "luck" to make such a horrible experience. I was ganked only once, also when I was a "Newb". But after I got out of the known hotspots it wasn't that bad at all. Now that I "Git Betta", I remember those times and every bullet / laser-ray I fire upon these jerks are filled with the memories of the past. And it feels great!
No need to feel sorry, at least not for me. As said, the only ships i ever lost there was because i decided that the ship is cheap and i can go all in. Up to now, all my ships were set up well enough to survive when i was attacked in open. The problem is that many players have similar stories. Many of them were not prepared for the risk. (E.g. see a posting further above, about a new player being ganked in the starting system, when still trying to learn how to fly. ) And youtube is full of videos telling the very same story.
So no need to feel sorry for me. When i went to open, i knew the risk. (Except the few times i was there by accident and was very surprised to be attacked, but still escaped. ) I know about Möbius, went through the procedure and find it the overall much better playing experience. I found my place, i am fine.
Feeling sorry would rather be in place for those who were driven away by such people and for the game, which gained a bad reputation and thus lost a lot of potential income.
One cannot blame Elite to be the only gankfest out there (remembering my EvE Online career).
Hmm. Same story, basically. Just out of memory, a list of MMOs i tried with my friends, some for more time, some for less. It's not complete, but it might show the idea: Star Wars Galaxies, Anarchy Online, Neocron 2, Tales of Pirates, Guild Wars 1 & 2, World of Warcraft, Warhammer Online, DC Universe, Star Trek Online, Star Wars the old Republic, The Secret World, Bounty Hounds Online, MechWarrior online, World of Tanks, FireFall, Warframe, Elder Scrolls Online. I am rather sure i missed out a few still.
Now based on the topic, you can guess which one was pondered several times, but always rejected due to the bad reputation it had? (And mind you, even Neocron 2 and Warhammer Online actually made the cut and were played for some months! )
Basically one of our group, when we again discussed what to try next, basically put it down like this: the best thing about EvE is that it keeps the worst scum busy elsewhere, so they can't ruin the games we play. The game could actually be awesome. I can't tell. I just know that my old group of friends from university time still uses online games (next to a monthly board game evening) to keep in contact. And the mere reputation of EvE made sure that we never touched it.
It's the very same barrier which ED doesn't manage to break for most of them. Over the years, FD had the chances to fix this. By now, i guess the boat as sailed, i won't manage to get them to play this game any more.