Aren't YOU the immersion cowboy? People okay with remote control are the ones who don't care about immersion...
Keeping in mind just how much the use of drones and VR was increasing and becoming commonplace at the beginning of the 21st century (especially in comparison to the 1980's) I am surprised so many people are upset with the implementation of the SLF which is so short ranged that the communication loop wouldn't be a problem.
Telepresence over tens of thousands of light years between things as small as ships is a different degree of problem for the suspension of disbelief.