Can't go wrong with a Thrustmaster HOTAS-X with Voice Attack (Astra Pack).
Although I'm seriously considering adding TrackIR 5 to that
You can, the HOTAS-X is awful and shoddy, inaccurate and prone to deadzone problems. Voice Attack has bags of latency and is very approximate- hilarious when people still excited by the novelty of it all boost into the side of a station though

VA has a place for people who want to launch macros to rework power/request docking, but I'd really suggest not using it for time critical stuff, or stuff that can get you killed if it has a special moment and executes a random incorrect command.
TrackIR is nice though, I'll agree there. The angle of the sensor makes it a lot nicer than the ps3 eye/FTNoIOR route. Just avoid the bundle with the "Proclip", as it's flimsy and prone to snapping. The basic TrackClip works just fine, and is cheaper.
For HOTAS, I guess I'd suggest a a TM1600M (the cheapest Hall Effect stick) and CH Pro Throttle as a non-scary option; you can always buy the throttle later, if it's a lot to spend upfront. Otherwise, if you want a HOTAS "set", an X-52 Pro is OK, an X-55 is better and more robust. If you're feeling rich, a CH Fighterstick, Pro Throttle and Pro Pedal setup is absolutely killer- durable and reliable. Another good but expensive option is the Warthog HOTAS with a set of pedals (the CH ones are pretty solid).
I'm using an X-55 with CH Pro Pedals and TrackIR 5. It's insanely nice- though I did need to lubricate the X-55 stick a bit and swap springs to make it as smooth as I wanted. However, that was quick and easy, and now it works like a dream. The X55 config that ships with ED works well, and I was able to tweak it over time as I understood the game and wanted slightly different things. Integrating TrackIR control and the pedals was really easy. Happy to explain either to anyone who needs to do that, also how to tame the X-55 stick.