Bad assumption. I'm not a young sprout with relaxes like a cat. I'm a Grumpy Old Git and my reflexes are as slow as molasses. I don't doubt that playing against live pilots is more dangerous than NPCs but those are my limit. And It's a wise man that knows his limits.
ED allows me to play a Solo game at a level that I can. And I don't play for excitement. Never. Not in my 35 year of playing Elite have I ever played for excitement. I leave that to pilots like you. Elite for me has always been Solo, for enjoyment and just for me.
I hope you realise that when I said 'you' in my post, I didn't actually mean that literally, right?
I'm definitely no PvP god, I have
zero direct player kills under my belt (I don't count the couple of cases where I was in a wing; one of them was actually whacking a ganker, the other was a T9 who refused to cooperate, silly billy that he was) and am pretty much
always at the receiving end of PvP combat. Most of my ships don't carry interdictors unless I need to pull NPCs, or my pirate ships (which are small pad as mentioned before). I am pretty good (if I may say so myself) at evasion though, thanks to plenty of practice courtesy of those evil gankers/griefers.
Whenever I try to fight back I end up coming short, could be skill but a big factor is outfitting and engineering - I fly what I consider Open-proof PvE ships - most can escape a single player interdiction, and some can (and have) escaped wing attacks (i.e. true ganks, by organised groups).
I do believe that despite me losing my fair share of ships, I get better at evading at least, and that in itself is already rewarding enough for me - I don't need to win a PvP battle, I don't have the patience for it and I certainly don't feel to equip my ships in a way that would allow me to have that chance - the cost in utility outside of combat just isn't worth it for me. But there is a middle ground, and when I see or hear of Cutters getting whacked by Cobras then it's not for the Cobra, but the
Cutter pilot to maybe reflect on their decisions in the game and learn from it, rather than just moan, complain and carry on as they do, until the next time their ship gets destroyed. But you can only lead a horse to water and all that...