Understood - noting that we don't all want the same things - the only thing that some of us may have in common is that we play the same game.
Only in the most general sense. Yes, we are all playing Elite Dangerous. Are we all playing the same "game" though? Not really.
The difference between an Open-bound PvPer and a Solo/PG trucker, miner or explorer could not, in practice, be more different in terms of how ED allows us to approach its content. It is both what makes ED unique and, in many ways, lopsided when it comes to the gameplay where the actions of these individuals overlap and affect one another.
I don't like drawing comparisons to other games, but sometimes it's warranted. If I want to go somewhere and exploit something in EVE Online, I have no choice but to deal with the people who might want to stop me. If their numbers or their tactics are superior, I'm not able to force an outcome by switching modes and removing them from the equation.
That can broadly be regarded as a
level playing field. Yes, I'm at a disadvantage, but my opponents' advantage is something they've
earned by organizing effectively and keeping me out. It's a matter of perspective.
A hockey game isn't really "competative" if one of the teams has just one guy shooting pucks at an empty net in a different arena, and all his goals count toward his team's score. Does that make sense?