You are so misguided its not even funny, do you only ever see the bad ?
Misguided?
Erm, no. There are plenty of "seal-clubbers" in Open - you can check the YouTube videos they make while laughing at how pathetic they are.
This is why station speed limits came about, and why a quite a few other changes have been made, due to "seal-clubbers" exploiting the game in order to smash up other players without any risk to themselves.
Plus, other players experiences being regularly posted on the forums of being ganked by heavily armoured combat ships chasing down small trader ships, does not exactly scream skill based combat - it screams seal-clubber.
Now, I have no experience of you in game, you may not be like this - kudos to you if you're not. And the expression is a massive generalisation regarding why people want to PvP, but Asp is right that there are a lot of wannabe seal-clubbers out there, hence the stereo type.
If you want decent PvP where you are not seal-clubbing, make or join a PvP group, where you can meet and fight like minded players. I hear a few people already do this so you're not alone.
As for balance, it's been said over and over - this is a PvE game where you "can" PvP, is it not a PvP based game. So expect PvE balancing to be the main thing.