i sadly sunk to those type levels, too. no wonder FDEV is not going to try and engage & manage such a grumpy outside source
I think you can put some of this down to a bit of futureshock among people / backers. While DDF was ongoing, I was reading the archive and painting the picture in my head, of exactly how I thought the game would look and play. I think most DDF members and backers would have been doing the same, but that doesn't mean that vision EVER exactly fitted with FD's vision, there all along.
The moment anyone sees a feature that wasn't discussed, suddenly that breaks the perception and almost inevitably, in the head, questions arise .. I was wrong, is this going to be the game I expected? In the absence of word from FD, although it's probably a mistake to give vent to unease, and hence spread panic, it's a pretty human thing to do.
Would be a shame if FD banished the DDF forever for it, but I guess we just have to accept at least for the time being, their managing their output, not just of the game, but of community interaction their way, and especially at times when there energies might be better spent elsewhere. Especially if they perceive a Hydra .. At one point KS backers were all there were but FD do have other customers now, too.
Doesn't mean that won't ever change but if FD go through a phases of shadowplay, doesn't even matter so much in practical terms if they never come back to DDF, and discussing design may be entirely inappropriate from here on in. Though of course, it would be a shame, both for the DDF and especially if the more unofficial incarnations of KS Backer group disbanded. I kind of pictured the same group in 30 more years time (maybe will have grown into those L size ""POLO"" shirts by then

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FD and fans, all fallible humans, even 1000 years from now, I bet it'll still be the case.