This needs to be repeated and quoted.
Clearly, they have made a desicion (which I do not support at all), but... these guys are still humans. Don't attack the person; attack the idea without degenerating yourself into a bully.
I would argue, that the desicion to make it instant, is not really grounded in what most people playing Elite: Dangerous wants, which is a space simulation game with Fiction where it needs to be, but still grounded in reality. FD might have a changed oppinion in which direction the game would go.
With that said, being constructive, present ideas, and stay away from personal attacks, would be a good way to, hopefully, have them (the devs) to listen to us who don't like the idea of ship transfering being instant.