Have to agree with you there, it's a continuation of the anti-Rey thing and has been going on since long before the movie opened. QED it's got little or nothing to do with the actual film.
I'm looking forward to End Game now (saw Cpt Marvel, liked it). So picture this ... Pepper Potts jumps in the Mark 39 (or whatever suit it is) rescues Tony Stark, saves the day and HOW the "wamen" salt doth flow! lol
We can hope, its getting to the point where it gets in the way of trying to natter about movies.
Here's an interesting star wars fact in the New Hope Leia saves the day when they are trapped in the detention area through lack of plan. Score one for the womenfolk resultant outcry zero.