CMDR Jenny Diver experienced this. I started her as a PvP CMDR but quickly decided to switch her over to exploration. The direct chats I was receiving were really creepy and inappropriate, and it made me feel very uncomfortable despite being a guy "behind the mask". Thankfully my wife rarely experiences this in RDO. Weird to think that RDO is "safer" than ED in this regards...
Yeah that was exactly my experience. There's pretty much nothing someone can say to me in chat in a game that will actually shock me, I've had death threats, sincere wishes that I get cancer, that my parents get cancer, that I die in a fire and God knows what else, usually after I've despatched the person concerned in an amusing or stylish manner and honestly it's just words on a screen to me, I can't even begin to care what some butthurt clown thinks.
Some of the stuff I got on that account though, it really makes you look at humanity in a different way because one thing I've never had on
any game account anywhere that seems to be male, cis or otherwise, is abuse or indecency
purely on the basis that I was a bloke, with no other context to it. I'm sure it does differ from game to game but this was about five or six years ago and I found myself thinking
'is this really where we're at almost two decades into the 21st century?'