I'll land at whatever speed in the video game I feel like thanks, usually I go in on boost and use the control tower as a "brake". As long as you have tanky shields everything's good. Not getting reckless flying fines means you are just not trying hard enough.You'll never catch me, ramming a commander "just for giggles". This would be immature, to stay polite. But complaining about being rammed near a pad/outpost. You have nothing to fear about, unless you're not obeying to the number 1 rule: Speedlimit is BELOW 100m/s. If you're too fast, then it's your fault.
I've never actually lost a ship to the station greifers even pre-speed limit, probably down to my zero tolerance policy of just blocking them all on sight. Got very bored of them in 2015 when they all hung around the Lave cluster.
The games better without them in it.