General / Off-Topic [Girlfriend Trouble] Whoops!
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.............. now who will they blame if that happens?
Seriously; it is about communication but it is also about compromise.
It's supposed to be a two-way street (in my experience which, to be honest, is vast) but if you're only going one way and it's the wrong way down the street neither person will be happy.
Happiness; isn't that the point?
Peace out.
Spacehead hasn't been back in 5 hours. I think she told him he had to stop using the forums now too...
Manipulation to control within a relationship, is an abusive relationship.
I'm still alive! And so is my PC.
All very surprising, really. Lol
Ok, so update time!
We had a long old chat, I said I like to play games to escape and relax, just like she likes to take baths (so many baths!) and listen to music. (She literally spends more time in the bath a week, than I do playing games!)
She actually understood, and it turns out she was just dramatising about the phedophiles thing. She just thinks I get addicted too easily and become weird.
Which makes sense because I used to do that, but not any more. I don't game from 10am to 4am on my days off like I used too when I was young. (I'm lucky if I can stay awake to midnight these days!)
She also thinks I shouldn't be playing games when I have more important stuff to do, like get a career, in something. Annoyingly, she makes valid points. Again.
So I am allowed to play games, but I just have to sort my life out first. Which is fair really.
I most definitely need a better job. So poor...
She's most annoyed I lied, and is pulling the whole "if you lied about this, you could lie about cheating, or anything!" card. And is completely ignoring the fact I HAVE NO FRIENDS. Lol
I don't particularly like anyone I work with, and I don't socialise outside of work. Also one woman is too much to deal with, I actually have no idea how people have two or more on the go... Sheesh. Lol
And most importantly....
ED reset my screenshot key binding to alt-F10, which is the same as my video capture key... hence it started saving screenshots in my damn pictures folder, and then damn windows stuck them on the photos app. Grrr.. sometimes technology isn't helpful at all.
One of the screenshots was simply "Your ship has been destroyed by SAND GIBBONS".
I had a hard time explaining that one.
She assumed Sand Gibbons was a player, and didn't believe it was an NPC name, because why would an NPC have such a ridiculous name...!?
The rest were just uninteresting screenshots of me flying through space.
Lesson learned.
Don't lie. And check your key bindings.
Might change my video capture key to something else... Lol
All very surprising, really. Lol
Ok, so update time!
We had a long old chat, I said I like to play games to escape and relax, just like she likes to take baths (so many baths!) and listen to music. (She literally spends more time in the bath a week, than I do playing games!)
She actually understood, and it turns out she was just dramatising about the phedophiles thing. She just thinks I get addicted too easily and become weird.
Which makes sense because I used to do that, but not any more. I don't game from 10am to 4am on my days off like I used too when I was young. (I'm lucky if I can stay awake to midnight these days!)
She also thinks I shouldn't be playing games when I have more important stuff to do, like get a career, in something. Annoyingly, she makes valid points. Again.
So I am allowed to play games, but I just have to sort my life out first. Which is fair really.
I most definitely need a better job. So poor...
She's most annoyed I lied, and is pulling the whole "if you lied about this, you could lie about cheating, or anything!" card. And is completely ignoring the fact I HAVE NO FRIENDS. Lol
I don't particularly like anyone I work with, and I don't socialise outside of work. Also one woman is too much to deal with, I actually have no idea how people have two or more on the go... Sheesh. Lol
And most importantly....
ED reset my screenshot key binding to alt-F10, which is the same as my video capture key... hence it started saving screenshots in my damn pictures folder, and then damn windows stuck them on the photos app. Grrr.. sometimes technology isn't helpful at all.
One of the screenshots was simply "Your ship has been destroyed by SAND GIBBONS".
I had a hard time explaining that one.
She assumed Sand Gibbons was a player, and didn't believe it was an NPC name, because why would an NPC have such a ridiculous name...!?
The rest were just uninteresting screenshots of me flying through space.
Lesson learned.
Don't lie. And check your key bindings.
Might change my video capture key to something else... Lol
Save the PC and BURN THE WITCH. I BET SHE THINKS THE WORLDS FLAT TOO
So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been together like 10 years or something (I forget... Lol). She knew I loved gaming when we met, but has since been trying to stop me. No idea why I allowed this, but I did. Hey ho.
Anyhoo, about 4 years back, she basically gave me the ultimatum, stop playing games or move out. At the time, we'd just moved in together, so I couldn't afford to move out, not even with my parents (because I had 6 months rent to pay regardless...!).
So I said I'd stop. And I did, for a while. Tried to get used to watching boring TV. Didn't work. Brain needs stimulation!
So I started again. In secret!
What could possibly go wrong?
I hid everything on my PC, even kept my gamepad in the attic and got it out each time I needed it.
Even did a few upgrades without her noticing. Lol
I did pretty well, had some close calls, and my PC was insistent on giving it away as much as possible (saving screenshots, randomly trying to load steam, etc). Lol
But I kept it under wraps...
Up until about January this year.
My PC caught me out, and loaded steam with Windows (despite me telling it not too), and my girlfriend noticed. (Why does windows ignore everything you tell it!?)
BUSTED!
So, I confessed, that I'd only played them "a bit"...(1000 hours in ED.....
She mostly got over it, but kept insisting I stop playing.
Several arguements later, she once again gave me the ultimatum.
No idea why, but I agreed again, and cut out gaming for a few weeks.
So instead I watched videos of gaming... Lol
Then I got the itch for 3.0, and fancied starting my own video channel. So I did. Spent aggggeess making sure my video capture didn't stick videos in my video library, and triple checked it.
Perfectly hidden! *Selected hide file*... Lol
All has been good up until today, when I called her after work to decide dinner.... (she's been home all day watching TV no doubt, so obviously couldn't decide while I was at work...!)
My PC has randomly started saving screenshots, to my photos folder!
No idea why, or how, because it wasn't set to save them there. Nor have I purposely saved any screenshots!
But my girlfriend opened up our photo library to see lots of ED screenshots.
Well crap, busted again!
Now she insists she can't trust me, and all that crap, claims if I can hide games, I can hide cheating, or anything.
And I think she wants me to move out.
And to be honest, I'm getting fed up with her odd stance towards gaming in general. Her view is it's for kids or 40 year old phedophiles...
So we just had the most awkward conversation on the phone, which was mostly silence...then hung up.
But i just finished work, and I'd like to go home... But I don't know if I should, or just go to my parents.
If I go home, I'll get moaned at some more, and have to do the whole argument again, probably about 11 times. And not get dinner.
If I go to my parents, I'll have to explain why I'm there... Which is awkward.
But I'm hungry. So I need to go somewhere.
Hmmmmm... I also have images of my PC being thrown out the window...
Not sure what to do now...lol
Help?
CMDR Cosmic Spacehead
Question:
Is she hot?
If she is..id put up with SOME of this crap..
If she aint..man...
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Reverse the sexes and we would have all the 'right on' crowd saying about International woman's day, and how it is abuse etc..
Show her she is in a cool group now - She can join my missus.. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Game widow
..and my 'whinging from her' killer is simple - 'Ok, I will stop playing, and start going out more with the lads instead.'
Show her she is in a cool group now - She can join my missus.. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Game widow
..and my 'whinging from her' killer is simple - 'Ok, I will stop playing, and start going out more with the lads instead.'
Hide the plug for the bath see how she likes being deprived of comfort
Women always tend to try and mold their partner into something they are not. I wouldn't have it and 'bin her off'. To have to hide your computer to conceal your hobby is in today's parlance, is a form of 'domestic violence', have non of it my good man. My wife keeps on at me for playing ED, I ask her what else would she have me do? 'You can talk to me', she replies whilst watching the soaps on tv
No games? No television!
Should allow to find a compromise
The behavior of your girlfriend is unacceptable !
Should allow to find a compromise
The behavior of your girlfriend is unacceptable !
I have ADHD, so basically it's a built in ability to ignore my environment for shiny things.
My girlfriend has never stopped me socialising, that's something I do on my own, it takes me a reallllllllly long time to make friends, and when I do make a friend, I stick with just 1.
I just haven't found one yet, since moving here nearly 4 years ago.
Gaming is clearly a significant part of who you are (your forum contributions show us that). It's something you love doing and you know what? There's NO shame in it. You've only got to look at the work Special Effect do and the huge difference being able to play video games can make to someone's life to realise that (perhaps you should show your gf one of their videos?). It's a pity you had to lie and keep it secret because you obviously did feel that it was something you shouldn't be doing. B (and indeed) S to that tho! It's not like you have a drug habit. It's not harming you or those around you. Be proud to be a gamer. You need to confront her with this and maybe offer an ultimatum of your own. Don't go comparing it with things she does that you don't like tho ... that road leads to disaster. You need to just say that this is a thing you love doing and that you don't want to have to keep it secret or be made to feel ashamed of doing it anymore. You will need to make compromises tho and you need to openly discuss this. Gaming is a pretty anti-social activity. Personally (my wife doesn't like gaming herself and enjoys my company in the evenings) I've ended up playing ED in the mornings before work. It's a bit of a killer on the old sleep pattern but it's worth it for the sake of my relationship. Good luck mate!
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