I learnt through experience and most importantly listening to good combat advice on the forum. As far as combat and survival goes, cmdrs are free to ignore help from experienced cmdrs and learn purely from trial & error, just don't complain about getting killed constantly and not understanding tactics, the majority have taken on advice or learnt to adapt.
Elite rank and hours played means little in this game if a cmdr is set in his ways and continues making the same mistakes whilst refusing outside help. Just look at how many NPC death posts started with 'I am elite rank and not a newbie' It means nothing in this game, just an indication of how many fish they managed to shoot in a barrel.
So if you don't mind my asking, what is your combat rank? I'm triple Elite, maybe we are not seeing the same issues in-game? Perhaps there are aspects of the gameplay you are less familiar with for your relative lack of experience in those areas? Maybe you are just less immersed in the Elite universe & treat it as a pew pew game rather than a way of life as I have for the last 30 years or so?
I have a little over 15 weeks gametime in ED, and most of that wasn't what you'd describe as 'farming'. I've just spent a long time 'in character' as it were, and yes, a little set in my ways because in my view, it worked cohesively before, where now it's a mess of inconsistencies & the magic has been brought front & centre.
My complaints, and the solutions I propose (or support) are consistently aimed at restoring the balance lost in 2.1, that you simply do not appear to see. Perhaps one day you will. Or maybe you will never understand, who knows?
You don't have to agree, but I feel it is important that you, as an upstanding member of this community, make the effort to more fully understand the issues you claim to offer advice on.