Oh sure there are issues on both sides, the main sticking point for many though seems to be the illusion that neither side wants to address the issue.
Disagree.
The main "sticking point" is that PvPer's already got everything they wanted with Open unrestricted game play with (almost) no consequences, and PvE players got the short end of the stick with having to use PG's or Solo in order to avoid being "harassed" by players who think "unsolicited competitive gameplay" should be the norm. It never has been and never will be. EVE turned into a niche game over the years because of this. They're actually trying to resolve it now with "alpha accounts", etc. but the reality for them is that they're only postponing the inevitable. It may not "die" but it's definitely falling into the ranks of obscurity as other games are released with more sensible options (like PvP flagging, etc.) This will also happen to ED eventually- falling into the ranks of obscurity as others are more willing to cater to both styles of gameplay instead of trying to create a divisive arena.
FD's "social experiment" has failed- needs to address this problem, and until they do all the forum discussion isn't going to change it.
It wouldn't matter if all of us suddenly started holding hands and singing kumbaya together- we have no control whatsoever over this game. Threats of "not playing" "boycotting" and all that won't help- it has no effect, they've already gained enough financially to be successful.
That said, although I speak for myself only- I'd be willing to discuss options which benefit BOTH sides of the fence, and always have been- but from what I've observed from most on the PvP side it's an "all or nothing" argument. (which I can only gather is based on the "competitive" nature of PvP) Most want the ability to "control" what PvE players do or don't, having "targets" fully accessible to them without restriction, etc. Summed up, "fish in a barrel".
Show me a "solution" being proposed by the PvP community that doesn't include the ability to control everything PvE players are able to do, and I'll certainly consider it.