As a newcomer not that long ago myself, going on about 350hrs in the game, I think that my own newbie exp is still fresh (and ongoing) so I could share some thoughts I had with you:
-As a beginner, Do NEVER watch videos the like ''How to win 3000 whatever mat/Cr per hours'', you'd end up depressed, and thinking it's all about ''grinding stuff'', but on the contrary, go for lore videos and historical events, so you get hooked even more by this universe: this game is old and had many steps, so it has built its own History based on what early players and the others after that acomplished, some events are actually so famous that even people or journalists not playing the game reports them, here are some examples:
-I've watched in my native language a video about one of the longest rescue made by Fuel Rats,
-The various far distance explorations is fascinating,
-Crazy things good or bad, but still, happened like actual history events, as for example when some people lured newbies to ''enslave'' them...
Those things really put you into some long time, vast universe, in which old pilots put their marks, and that you are pleased to jump in and discover yourself, that's the idea I started to make of ED.
Also, I joined a squadron, so it is always nice to meet both more experienced cmdrs and fellow noobs, and they can help you with engineer stuff a lot.
But this, you actually don't need to rush at all, or to learn evertthing from others and spoil the game's hidden mechanics: I've found myself wandering in the game with space rock/stoner music compilations, with whatever random unexpensive ships I want to try, and see what happens with those relative weakness, give a try to types of missions I'm not used to, make mistakes, and so on, you'll soon find that you harvested a lot of craps by doing so, and then, what is useful for what...
Alternatively, if I don't have much time, I just pick one mission, sometimes evertyhing's fine so i can start another, sometimes it fails in every way possible so the challenge is to reach safety with a broken ship asap...
So yes, pick advises here in this forum and elsewhere whenever you need, but also, just fly your ships with your familly and see what happens, make mistakes, blow your own ships being stupid sometimes, or get notoriety because you misunderstood something, you'll still learn a lot by trying, plus being already a team, you will have multiple brains figuring things out, just like an escape game.
So my two cents ans a noob: listen to the vets, sometimes don't, but have fun first, ED is way more than a grindy mobile phone crappy game with no background, no matter those strange videos with ''tank'' anacondas making credits whilr the guy's AFK or whatever.