Think of it this way... bullets are little lumps of mass fired at high speed. A sidewinder is a big lump of mass, say 100000 times the mass with about 1/10 speed. So ramming absolutely should have the potential to wreck a ship.
Bigger ships with more powerful shields are going to come off better than smaller ships. Just before the beta wipe, I totalled my cobra by careening into a lakon, and that wasn't really bothered
Yeah fair but I think the issue on hand is how the damage is being calculated. Sure ramming should have the potential to end someone, but I think the Eagle specifically reacts extremely adversely to being grazed in any way, exponentially more than any other ship.