Nailed it!
I tried to get mine to play, but she gets motion sickness way too easily. She watched me play one time while doing some combat and she had to walk out of the room, because just watching everything spinning was making her sick!
Re: relationships and elite dangerous
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Nailed it!
I tried to get mine to play, but she gets motion sickness way too easily. She watched me play one time while doing some combat and she had to walk out of the room, because just watching everything spinning was making her sick!
4 hours grinding! You lucky lucky boy! I’m lucky to get that in a year!
Oh, sorry, i misunderstood...
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Oh, sorry, i misunderstood...
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If you’re only grinding the missus for four hours a day, I know of a line of Performance Enhancers that can help with that....
What you need to do is find yourself a work from home job.
Do some actual work when she is home but as soon as she goes out the door to go shopping / gym / school run then this is your opportunity for a bit of grief free gaming time!
The only risk is if she comes home early and catches you in the act playing with your spaceships and ruin the illusion of of what she thought you were doing, in diligently working hard all day to pay off the mortgage.
To counter this eventuality I always have the dog strategically deployed in the front garden when she is out to act as an early warning system for when she is coming back up the garden path, so by the time she enters the house I have had time to switch Elite off and get the spreadsheets open to make it look like I was doing some very important work the whole time.
Do some actual work when she is home but as soon as she goes out the door to go shopping / gym / school run then this is your opportunity for a bit of grief free gaming time!
The only risk is if she comes home early and catches you in the act playing with your spaceships and ruin the illusion of of what she thought you were doing, in diligently working hard all day to pay off the mortgage.
To counter this eventuality I always have the dog strategically deployed in the front garden when she is out to act as an early warning system for when she is coming back up the garden path, so by the time she enters the house I have had time to switch Elite off and get the spreadsheets open to make it look like I was doing some very important work the whole time.
There are women who are delighted to have four hours of peace.
Gamers and wives sadly do not go hand in hand unless of course you're one of those bloody lucky b*****ds who has a gamer wife!
I learnt that the hard way. At 45, I've been a gamer since before I met her. 20 years of marriage and there were times during those years we almost parted ways BECAUSE of my gaming. We DID however part ways 2 years ago, my gaming being a big part of it. I have lots of regrets. I keep thinking to myself, if only I'd just been smarter, if only I'd looked at myself, if only I'd .......
Some tips I did learn along the way. Have set nights were you're allowed to game guilt free, and set nights when you spend the night together. Try setting gaming nights to Monday Thursday and Sunday. Interchange it with a weekend night. You will inevitably spend your nights with her thinking about gaming ^^ but try to hide it and pretend to be interested in what she has to say......
I learnt that the hard way. At 45, I've been a gamer since before I met her. 20 years of marriage and there were times during those years we almost parted ways BECAUSE of my gaming. We DID however part ways 2 years ago, my gaming being a big part of it. I have lots of regrets. I keep thinking to myself, if only I'd just been smarter, if only I'd looked at myself, if only I'd .......
.... ditched her 15 years ago!
Now I can game when ever I want without nagging. (Oddly, I game less!... I wonder why) I live in a swanky bachelor pad, sleep with whoever I want, get drunk whenever I want, go out when ever I want, DO whatever I want. LIFE IS GOOD MY FRIEND!
Now I can game when ever I want without nagging. (Oddly, I game less!... I wonder why
) I live in a swanky bachelor pad, sleep with whoever I want, get drunk whenever I want, go out when ever I want, DO whatever I want. LIFE IS GOOD MY FRIEND!Some tips I did learn along the way. Have set nights were you're allowed to game guilt free, and set nights when you spend the night together. Try setting gaming nights to Monday Thursday and Sunday. Interchange it with a weekend night. You will inevitably spend your nights with her thinking about gaming ^^ but try to hide it and pretend to be interested in what she has to say......
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My husband and I have been together almost 33 years. We literally haven't had a fight in 20 some years. When I married him, I knew he would let me do whatever I wanted to do and vice versa. If it makes him happy to go out in the snow and think about programming, I insist that he go. His happiness is my happiness and vice versa. Although he isn't interested in gaming anymore, he is quite happy to have me game until 3 in the morning. Thank goodness he is a sci-fi buff and loves spaceships!
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Stop hogging all the covers, man.
Relatively on topic: my wife bought me the CH Pro HOTAS just for Elite, and a 27" monitor when my old one died. She is of gamer and while Elite isn't her kind of game, she totally gets it as another gamer in general.
If HomeTask X is imminent (dinner, non-time-critical things) and I say "this fight's almost over, then I have to land and collect this mission" she says "okay, see you in a few minutes" instead of "OMG is that game more important to you than [insert non-game noun here]", because she plays live online games herself. I can talk DPS and all that modern gaming jargon with her as she knows it better than I do.
She is a great racer, and a formidable FPS opponent; and I actually don't play sidescroller fitan games with her anymore because I categorically have zero chance. >__> But that is infinitely more enjoyable than being with someone who doesn't "get" your hobbies, or even worse, doesn't even tolerate them.
I did some of my programming laying in bed trying to get to sleep
My wife is not a gamer, but she's enjoyed watching me play since 1997. No seriously, enjoyed being her choice of word. We often have this discussion on video games being a perfectly valid hobby, because our kids are 12 and 8, and we meet a lot of parents who insist on "game time" and other blindly-apply-always- rules that we are openly against. The fact that these same parents may have no problem with unlimited TV time leaves me confused but hey, we're the generation where some ended up gamers and some didn't, gotta fear the unknown, right?
There's been just one footnote lately.
"Except this Elite I find too boring to watch."
There's been just one footnote lately.
"Except this Elite I find too boring to watch."
This is what playing ED does to you and your loved ones. Soon you'll be spouting abbreviations like BGS, PP PvE PvP FdL and random crazy system names...........and then.....
Same here.I'm lucky, mine's a sleeper, usually counting sheep by 10pm so I'm free and easy til 2am on worknights and 3 on weekends.