Re: relationships and elite dangerous

given the choice I'd rather spend time with my significant other than a video game. If you don't feel that way you need a better significant other. If she'll play with you...lock that **** down.

Nailed it!

I tried to get mine to play, but she gets motion sickness way too easily. She watched me play one time while doing some combat and she had to walk out of the room, because just watching everything spinning was making her sick!
 
Divorce and upgrade to Mrs version 2.0
Please be advised that uninstalling Mrs v1.x can be expensive and messy
handy tip - make sure you specify voice command as an add-on in your order.

Or get a dog. Limited voice command features come as standard in many models.....
 
I drive a truck for a living, after a hard day driving I have a few hours to kill- it beats staring at the parking lot. When I go home I don't play at all I have a list as long as my leg to catch up with around the house.
 
Wifey always goes to bed pretty early so that's my time

I sometime play when she's around but I have to put up with her saying "friendship drive" in a sarcastic voice a lot

Oh, and if you get into a good natured argument find out how many hours she's put into Candy Crush or similar
 
What you need to do is find yourself a work from home job.

Do some actual work when she is home but as soon as she goes out the door to go shopping / gym / school run then this is your opportunity for a bit of grief free gaming time!

The only risk is if she comes home early and catches you in the act playing with your spaceships and ruin the illusion of of what she thought you were doing, in diligently working hard all day to pay off the mortgage.

To counter this eventuality I always have the dog strategically deployed in the front garden when she is out to act as an early warning system for when she is coming back up the garden path, so by the time she enters the house I have had time to switch Elite off and get the spreadsheets open to make it look like I was doing some very important work the whole time.
 
Gamers and wives sadly do not go hand in hand unless of course you're one of those bloody lucky b*****ds who has a gamer wife!

I learnt that the hard way. At 45, I've been a gamer since before I met her. 20 years of marriage and there were times during those years we almost parted ways BECAUSE of my gaming. We DID however part ways 2 years ago, my gaming being a big part of it. I have lots of regrets. I keep thinking to myself, if only I'd just been smarter, if only I'd looked at myself, if only I'd .......

.... ditched her 15 years ago! :ROFLMAO:

Now I can game when ever I want without nagging. (Oddly, I game less!... I wonder why :ROFLMAO:) I live in a swanky bachelor pad, sleep with whoever I want, get drunk whenever I want, go out when ever I want, DO whatever I want. LIFE IS GOOD MY FRIEND!

Some tips I did learn along the way. Have set nights were you're allowed to game guilt free, and set nights when you spend the night together. Try setting gaming nights to Monday Thursday and Sunday. Interchange it with a weekend night. You will inevitably spend your nights with her thinking about gaming ^^ but try to hide it and pretend to be interested in what she has to say...... :rolleyes:
 
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My husband and I have been together almost 33 years. We literally haven't had a fight in 20 some years. When I married him, I knew he would let me do whatever I wanted to do and vice versa. If it makes him happy to go out in the snow and think about programming, I insist that he go. His happiness is my happiness and vice versa. Although he isn't interested in gaming anymore, he is quite happy to have me game until 3 in the morning. Thank goodness he is a sci-fi buff and loves spaceships!

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Ask her what she thinks and work it out from there.

Unless we're all in a poly marriage now? Kidding.
Stop hogging all the covers, man.


Relatively on topic: my wife bought me the CH Pro HOTAS just for Elite, and a 27" monitor when my old one died. She is of gamer and while Elite isn't her kind of game, she totally gets it as another gamer in general.

If HomeTask X is imminent (dinner, non-time-critical things) and I say "this fight's almost over, then I have to land and collect this mission" she says "okay, see you in a few minutes" instead of "OMG is that game more important to you than [insert non-game noun here]", because she plays live online games herself. I can talk DPS and all that modern gaming jargon with her as she knows it better than I do.

She is a great racer, and a formidable FPS opponent; and I actually don't play sidescroller fitan games with her anymore because I categorically have zero chance. >__> But that is infinitely more enjoyable than being with someone who doesn't "get" your hobbies, or even worse, doesn't even tolerate them.
 
Never fails, I start a session and right away think about something else I should/could be doing. That's because much of the gameplay is long/tedious grinding and if you've done it long enough you might get to the point to where you fall asleep not long after you start.
 
My husband and I have been together almost 33 years. We literally haven't had a fight in 20 some years. When I married him, I knew he would let me do whatever I wanted to do and vice versa. If it makes him happy to go out in the snow and think about programming, I insist that he go. His happiness is my happiness and vice versa. Although he isn't interested in gaming anymore, he is quite happy to have me game until 3 in the morning. Thank goodness he is a sci-fi buff and loves spaceships!

o7
I did some of my programming laying in bed trying to get to sleep :D
 
My wife is not a gamer, but she's enjoyed watching me play since 1997. No seriously, enjoyed being her choice of word. We often have this discussion on video games being a perfectly valid hobby, because our kids are 12 and 8, and we meet a lot of parents who insist on "game time" and other blindly-apply-always- rules that we are openly against. The fact that these same parents may have no problem with unlimited TV time leaves me confused but hey, we're the generation where some ended up gamers and some didn't, gotta fear the unknown, right?

There's been just one footnote lately.

"Except this Elite I find too boring to watch."

😬
 
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