You analogy totally does not match the situation. FD never asked for any help and since the 3rd party devs can't work directly on ED, you can't dig rocks out of their garden.
Let me try.
There is a company who are making a game. The game is lacking some features that some people would like to see in that game. Some people decide to make those features available out of game, and the devs do actually provide a way for those people to get access to certain bits of information from in game, which is rather nice. The devs didn't really make any promises about making things easier or better for the other people, although they talked about it from time to time. They said they would like to... maybe... soon... possibly. But it never really happened. Still, the other people still had their third party stuff and stuff worked. But those people still wanted more help from the devs, and they asked and asked and asked, but never got what they wanted. So, in the end, they pulled down their sites in protest, hoping that it would convince the developers to do what they wanted, knowing full well it would cause an uproar in the community, that pressure from the community would get the developers to do what they wanted.
Well... that's part 1 over. Let's see how part 2 goes eh?
But seems to fit with "Do as we say, or else"... you decide which dictionary word best fits that description.
Unless my little analogy doesn't quite fit in some way.
you forgot the part where you were meant to say "and a huge number of the player base used these 3rd party tools and relied on them. Also, the site has nothing to do with me or FDev and sticking my oar in is really non of my business. I'll call them terrorists though and ridiculously inflate the situation and ignore the fact that they spent 3 years asking and as a result, are quite within their right to pull a site whenever they want oh and did I tell you, I don't need these sites because I'm awesome