You are free not to play, you can just play in a private group. So in my opinion, FD gave you a way to avoid that if you want.
Not exactly. There is no official option for those that want to meet random players without the PvP. Private groups were never meant for that. Add a mode where I can meet random players in a way where PvP can't happen and I'm peachy.
(Well, mostly. What I really wanted is an offline mode.)
Again though, you admit the end effect is the same on you after interdiction, you just feel a bit bothered because someone else got some enjoyment out of the game at the same time.
Nope. The issue is not the other player getting enjoyment over it; the whole reason for a game existing is to provide enjoyment, after all, preferably to all parties taking part in it. When a way for getting the consent of every player taking part is added, everything is awesome.
The issue is that the other player is forcing his playstyle over others, with absolutely no regard for whether the other player want it or not. The other player going ahead with his action even though he knows that he might be ruining some other player's day, in some cases even intentionally attempting to do that.
Also I notice alt of people say things like "What I think about this kind of player can't be put into print without risking my posting privileges". Again, you just betray this to be a personal philosophical position you have about legitimate gamers.
I don't see those players as legitimate gamers; rather, I see them as people without empathy, who are out there to snatch whatever fun they can even if in the process they ruin the game for everyone else, people I absolutely want to have no contact with at all in game. When I mention that saying what I really think about them would get me forum infractions, I fully mean that; I had to edit this post a few times to get it into a shape that I could share.
For me to consider someone truly a gamer, then that person must be aiming to not only have fun, but to help everyone else playing the game have fun. In other words, someone that is fully invested in making the game fulfill its role in bringing joy. Anything less and, while I might consider the person a player, I will never consider him a gamer.
I would only advise you don;t play a game where others can "force" you to engage with them.
I don't. If the game has PvE elements I will only play it if I completely and utterly opt out of every and all PvP activity in it (or, in the case of a game that I'm playing for the PvP, if I can avoid everything PvE without it resulting in any disadvantage).
It is the equivalent to joining a football team, and then claiming every tackle was a violation of your consent.
If you join as the team manager, then yeah, every tackle is a violation of your consent
The "joining a football team" analogy isn't a good one, in the same way that comparing the consent situation between Open and CQC isn't appropriate. Joining a team as a player is done for one reason: you want to play. And to play that specific sport rather than, let's say, Basketball (where a football tackle would result in severe punishments for whoever initiated it).
(You could argue that the player joins for something else that he can get as a player — say, money or fame — but, in the real world, those other things are available through various other paths. There is no need to attempt to get money and fame by being a football player if you aren't interested in actually playing the game.)
Playing in Open is something with far less focus, that groups together many distinct, very different activities, and activities that even in Open are optional to boot. It's more akin to choosing a place to live; there are a lot of places nearby that you can go to or not as you please, many people that you can meet as you choose, and just because there is crime where you have chosen to live doesn't mean that you consent to having it happen to you.